…/Rant over
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awwww ..firstly calm down 
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how about you name the first name , he can give the child a middle name ( his fathers name ) and then in the end goes the surname 
That way you can give him a modern name , plus hubby gets to have his fathers name ( middle name) and his own name in the surname … 
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^ I agree with CB, compromise, he can call them the middle name.
BTW, yes, calm down... either that or have an almight hissy fit that will scare him into submission.
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aww..are you preggo? congrats! :D
i agree with the other two posters. calm down, and let it rest for a while. although i believe that it's the right of only the parents to name their children, i know that elders in our family like to think they have that right.
if you're open to it, maybe compromise on the name, like CB said. would you be okay with your child having a middle name that the in laws want?
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Yeah if hes like most dudes, he aint gonna compromise, esp when it comes to his own parents.
waise, wouldn’t his fathers name live on in the kids’ last names? 
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would be interesting to know what his parents names are?
shagufta? bushra? fakhar?
CB, thats a great suggestion… why didn’t I think of that? Thank you
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OMG i love Sakeena. If i ever had a daughter, i might name her that. its my nani's sister's name - we call her massi sakeena. :)
Its not a hard and old name. its beautiful. I wish i had a story behind my name and was named after someone. it would be an honour.
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But why can't I select the name :( Its my baby too, and I have to carry for 9 months..... NO FAIR!!!
Yup, modern+grand fathers+surname .. may I suggest Joshua Yaseen Khan. rolleyes
MIA, I think you are getting way too worked up for no reason.
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Sakeena is a lovely name. Easy to pronounce as well.
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I don't think she's getting worked up at all! Your hubby can't just dictate the name to you without even discussing it with you first! My hubby did the same thing. Either let him have his grandfather's name as a middle name or if your hubby insists that he should have it as a first name then stand your ground and just say no. He will get the point and give up. Come up with a name you both like. I was reading an islamic book about babies and it said that islamically the mother has the only right to name the child, but obviously you both should come up with a name you mutually agree on.
And if he still doesn't agree then just say "fine, but we're naming the 2nd baby after my parents" and see how fast he backs off lol!
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Those are not their names, I was just giving an example.
And I'm getting worked up cuz of the way he just pings me at work and says okay this is final, these are going to be the names... mein kaun hoon phir? Khud paida karo bachay. It would have been so much fun trying to find names and selecting them. Okay, I know I'm acting like a baby but I don't care, I'm pissed.... I'm sick also (got the flu) and in a crappy mood and then he dumps this on my head.
And why can't we discuss names and then decide.... its the high-handedness thats getting me pissed too. They all selected my first-born's name.... so basically this will happen again with my 2nd kid too and I don't get to have any say :(
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Mia , he’s probably just quite excited 
.. give him some time, you just concieved .. there’s still nine months to convince him … so stay put and once the initial excitement settles down , then talk to him again and make sure you give him your name options as well …
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Tell him a mother fills out the birthcert so he better play nice, lol.
I say give it some rest for now and talk about it later when the time is near. Itni jaldi larai jhagra dalnay ka kia faida?
Or talk to your inlaws about it, can you?
@CB: 
yeah probably, he’s just acting like a baby (I know I am too)… I guess we’re both excited, we had been trying since a while for our 2nd kid and I was actually jumping aorund yesterday when i found out 
see you calmed me down… thanks.
TLK… thanks for NOT helping 
… and FYI, Joshua is not even a Muslim name.
And my poor in-laws haven’t even said anything about names… its juts my hubby darling jumping the gun.
Anyways, Rant over… thanks 
Naming kids is quite controversial. It drives me insane when I hear that the in-laws (from either side) choose the child's name. Suggestions are welcome, but so long as they know that the parents will decide.
My sisters lucked out insofar as they got to choose the names - their husbands just exercised veto power. My BIL went so far as to say to his mum that since his wife was carrying the child for nine months, she had every right to choose the name.
But the middle name idea - I agree - to make things more amicable - let the in-laws influence the middle name - it makes them feel more involved.
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It's better to delete the thread all together than update it later.. little manners always help a lot!
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Mods, please delete this thread.... thanks :)