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absolutely...
what a lame excuse "she's new in the country and has nobody"...does that mean you tell ppl even if it's your best friend private stuff about you and your spouse? NO WAY...
Go and talk to your spouse and not to "other" ppl
introduce her to Gupshup and ask her to share the details over here... we may learn something new from her u know
i 2nd this advice. tell her we are waiting 4 her...hmm.. lol
by the way, if u cant tell her to get lost in person. then just text message her that u get annoyed at listening 2 such intimate nad personal details of her life and that ud rather not.
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What's the big deal? All you have to do is listen, it's not like she's asking you for an advice. As she finds more friends, she will probably stop sharing these details. Guys don't talk to each other about this stuff but if a guy were to talk to me about this, I would just listen, no matter how uncomfortable I get. That's what friends are for.
i’ve always said almost the same, u will never see men badmouthing or complaining about their wives here as u do about women wiht their husbands.
and heaven forbid a woman actually says only good things about her family, she’s blind or lying or..whatever. 
The poor lass is obviously having a tough time and looking for someone to confide in. No one LIKES to divulge intimate details...that is, unless there are troubles that are too hard to figure out independently. A GOOD friend is there for everything and anything. An acquaintance is not. PEople generally do not CHOOSE their problems. But they can and do choose who they confide in to help in resolving them. You should, imo, be honored that this gal has chosen to confide in you. and if you arent comfortable in trying to help her work things out then tell her that those things are just over your head.
MASHALLAH, she has no problems whatsoever with her husband or in-laws. It's just the intimate details of her life that she shares that makes me uncomfortable.
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she can call me to talk about this stuff :halo:
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If you are her only friend in a new country, then perhaps she is so lonely and just trying to reach out in whatever way she can. Maybe you can introduce her to some people, help her get involved in some activities, so she can make new friends and get better adjusted to life in Canada, which is probably very different from the life she is coming from
why not just change the subject when ever she tries to talk abt these things
What's the big deal? All you have to do is listen, it's not like she's asking you for an advice. As she finds more friends, she will probably stop sharing these details. Guys don't talk to each other about this stuff but if a guy were to talk to me about this, I would just listen, no matter how uncomfortable I get. That's what friends are for.
There is a big deal, your ears start hurtin' cuz you don't wanna hear what's goin' between husband and wife when they r alone...
Someone who shares bedstories will find himself in the worst position on the day of judgement...
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You just have to listen to her, its not like she actually demonstrate it in front of you 
its not like that it does any harm to u :)
so just play along
:halo:
Okay, So I had this friend "M"in school when I was living in Karachi. then, I moved out of PK with family and had little contact with that friend. Last year, M got married and came to Canada with her husband and we began talking once a week or so. she is a nice girl to talk to and all but the problem is, since I'm her only friend in Canada so far, she tells me almost every detail of her married like such as when she is on pills because they don't kids and when she began trying for kids, what has her husband told her about intimacy, which movies they like to watch together after marriage and what not really. So far, I've been patient enough to listen to her talks but it's making me more and more uncomfortable to listen to her.
How should I let her know, while being polite, that I neither feel comfortable nor appreciate getting all the intimate details of her life?
=S who does things like that???? How can ppl feel comfortable sharing such personal details. u should tell M in a polite way how u feel.
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forward her calls to my number. What the heck..why not record her calls and upload here...we would love to hear all that gossip.
^^ Hey, it's a serious matter we are discussing. Please don't make a joke out of it!
All those people who say that all I have to do is listen to her. Someone even said that it's not she is demonstrating it or anything. I somewhat agree to them but I happen to be a very private person. Although I'm not married but one thing that I know for sure is that, even in my wildest dreams, I shall never share such intimate details with anyone except husband. It could be absolutely okay for someone else but that is that person's choice and will and preference.
And, I guess, I'd just have to continue to listen to her because I don't thhink there is any way I can make her understand that what she says makes me uncomfortable without offending her :(
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^ are u uncomfortable because you think that when ur time comes around she will expect you to share everything as well?
forward her calls to my number. What the heck..why not record her calls and upload here...we would love to hear all that gossip.
Thats funny !!
^ are u uncomfortable because you think that when ur time comes around she will expect you to share everything as well?
I would have no clue about that. The only fact that makes me uncomfortable is that I have been getting all these unnecessary details about HER intimate life and then am expected to respond to them which is even more uneasy for me.
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Wish madam, i read through the whole thread and i would say i disagree with some of them, as not everyone is on the same mental comfort level, if u r uncomfortable with the details ur friend gives u then u should be honest to her and let her know that that is the case, after all she is ur friend and a lil bit of frankness is good for friendship. This way u are helping urself as well as her.