Re: Getting tricked into marrying mentally ill men
*True, but most of the marriages of 'western' people are just laughs, it seems to be the fashion here to have at least one or two divorces. Besides, there isn't much point to get married for them since they already do before marriage everything a husband and wife are supposed to do...
*
I think I did not make myself clear. I do not agree with your conclusion about the fashion thing. In West, couples spend plenty of time (sometime years) with each other just to make sure that they are compatible with each other. I am sure they know as much as they need to know about each other, before marriage. However, even then their marriages fail. It is NOT a fashion thingy to get divorced in West. It has dire consequences for the husband especially. However, even the consequences do not prevent divorces.
*But I personally feel you have a better chance of succeeding if at least you have something in common. And love? Who believes in love? it's good understanding which is important, being able to talk about problems, getting along well, respect.
*
I do not believe in the logic that knowing your partner and having something common is a recipe for success. For me the most important thing in a marriage is respect. Even without having anything in common, if you are able to respect the other person's point-of-view and his/her individuality, a majority of issues die right there. This is the pothole in marriages, as far as I see it. Individuals like to see their partners in a way they perceive is the right way without giving any respect and regards to the other persons individuality. Once negativity starts to encroach on the thoughts of the individuals, marriages become viscious cycles of complaints, lies, and excuses.
Everything important should be told before the wedding, including mentall illnesses.
No doubt about it.
**
The worst kind of marriages are those inside ones own family anyway, one should never ever marry a cousin**
Well! Cousins have the highest chances of having things common in their traits. Normally, their eating, sleeping, thinking, educational, etc., patterns are very similar. However, these things do not make a marriage successful and there are lots of other negativities in inter-cousin marriages which to me make them a no-no.