so mums and dads … how do you get through to your child when they become fixated on something? if you have more then one child, do you have to use different “tricks”/strategies with each? do you find your methods effective? and how does it compare to your spouse/partner?
me: I am an explainer. my eldest daughter is 3 yo … and i find myself giving her explanations for everything i want her to do or not do. it works .. about 80% of the time. Rest of the time … i’ll use something else to distract … this is getting harder as she is gets older.
my husband … my god he is the jadoo ki jhappi wala guy. no words, no explanations, no examples … all he has to do is open his arms and hug away whatever issue was getting our daughetr close to a melt down … ok i admit it … im jealous … his way is so much easier! :hinna: yet it doesn’t work for me.
Re: Getting through to your child: whats your parenting style?
I mainly try and distract with my 4 year old, as nothing else seems to work, but now that she is getting older i try to explain to her but rarely works. When hubby explains it works everytime so is quite annoying but it's because he's not around as much.
Re: Getting through to your child: whats your parenting style?
The look..... I wish!!
Honestly it depends on my patience level.. If I m calm, I will try to explain and reason with him but if I am in betwen explosive diaper, two loads of laundry, and burnt food on stove then I just tell him mama doesn't like it and won't talk to you.. Cruel I know but he gets that message loud n clear. Honestly it's usually him bugging his younger sister.. Blocking her way out of the living room, stopping her swing, trying to pick her up, or even pushing her when she is trying to stand up...Later, I try to explain that he is the big brother and what his role should be as a big brother.
For tantrums, I just tell him the answer yes or no and that the longer he will cry, chances are other privileges will be taken away. He is learning that the hard way.
He is 3 and truly testing my limits. I need to work on my patience too.
Re: Getting through to your child: whats your parenting style?
explaining hah...this doesnt work anymore. mine has counter-explanations ready with logic and all. starting to have to enforce things bad cop style, or bargain and trade. keep telling myself carrot works way better than stick.
… ok i admit it … im jealous … his way is so much easier! :hinna: yet it doesn’t work for me.