Re: getting through to someone…
Ha…I used to have this issue with my guy. 
But not anymore. 
Some things that worked for me:
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I needed to figure out when was the best time to bring up issues. Granted sometimes things blow up and can’t be “scheduled”. But I tried my best not to bring up stressfull issues when I knew he was already stressed about something else, had a bad day at work etc.
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Show him that I recognize and appreciate his contribution to our relationship. Thank him for the small daily things he does.
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During arguments or heated discussions, always keep myself composed. I never curse or raise my voice (ok, I do raise my voice but its rare). :halo: If he’s talking, I don’t interrupt him. I try my best to say “us” or “we” as much as possible as opposed to “I” or “you”.
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Every man (and woman) has their weaknesses. I’ve paid attention over time, and I know exactly what matters to him, and what drives him crazy. So depending on the issue that needs to be resolved, if he doesn’t cooperate…I have no problem using his weaknesses against him. Believe me, in my case, it gets him to listen and pay attention within a day or two.
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There has been times I’ve halted everything in the house when I needed his attention. When days go by and there wasn’t any food in the house and laundry doesn’t get done…believe me, he himself won’t give up until I tell him what’s bothering me (and yes, he actually does pay attention during these times). There is nothing better than me going on strike (in every way possible) to remind him just how much I contribute in the relationship. He prefers paying attention to what I have to say and solving whatever is bothering me…as opposed to living the life of a bachelor.
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Pick and choose your battles (as mentioned earlier). Be very well aware of what hubby will not compromise on…and what he will compromise (even though you may have to twist him arm on it). Be ready to compromise on certain issues that matters to him.
Again the above works for me due to both of our personalities…this may not be the solution for everyone. And as someone mentioned earlier, much of this gets sorted out as time goes by. Since you didn’t mention any specific examples of what your hubby doesn’t listen to…it’s really hard to give advice.