As a disclaimer im not justifying any behaviour im simply outlining how in a way it has benefitted someone…
My friend has been with his girlfriend since he was 15…a looong time…now thats his first serious girlfriend and in reality its his only girlfriend…its always been tough on him cos hes friends with people who have been single more often than in a relationship…so one of the tough things for him was the whole grass is greener thing…i remember when i got with my ex and things were going well…we’d chat and he sometimes wished he’d had a bit of fun before he met his girl…as in he wished he got into a relationship when he was 21-22 rather than since he was 15…as in he said that i for instance have had my fun and therefore when in a relationship i can face it a lot easier cos iv been on both sides of the green…
In my own case i can say that getting stuff out of your system is useful when you get with a girl…the temptations and curiousities arent the same as when you havent done anything…that said the grass is always greener so i would sometimes sit down and think i miss being single but then id remember myself when i was single sometimes wish i was in a relationship…
For my friend the **** hit the fan when we went on holiday…we went to Budapest a haven for some quite stunning Eastern European women…Eastern European women who are impressed by foreign guys and especially foreign guys with colour and with money…to cut a story short my friend was given a lot of attention by quite a stunning chick and he strayed…thing is the next day he thought that he got it out of his system and also realised after it all that he really wasnt missing much…its almost as if the emptiness of it all made him closer to his girl…so funnily enough him cheating actually ebenefitted his relationship cos he realised it really wasnt as good as anything he had with his girl…the thing lacked any meaning and therefore lacked appeal almost…
The point i guess is to suggest that sometimes by doing something wrong you realise whats right…