Hello everyone,
I was a regular on the wedding blog at Gupshup forums about two years ago but then I got married and moved to Canada. I had an unplanned pregnancy last november, which resulted in a miscarriage in january 2012. I was 8 wks…Even though it was not planned ( I was on the pill) but my husband got extremely excited about the whole scenario even though I was pretty skeptical-and then eventually came to terms with it and had started getting excited about having a baby till I miscarried. Post miscarriage, it took me about a month to recover fully physically (Even at 8 weeks i used to feel sick, sleep a lot and then bled heavily) but I still haven’t been able to snap out of the whole scenario cuz I kinda feel guilty about it…since I never wanted a baby in the first place…After that my husband and I decided that we wont TTC for about 2-3 years as we are not mentally prepared…however, since January, ever since my in-laws found out (no one knew about the pregnancy but my husband told them when i miscarried) I’ve been getting hints and taanas that we should plan a family now etc etc…I used to get really annoyed about it, and had several fights with my husband asking him to tell his family not to nag me, and that it was not planned to begin with and that we will have a baby when we are ready for it…Obviously he did not say anything to them and I still get to hear stuff and Im the one who always has to answer their questions and say ‘yes we will think about it soon’ etc…
Im on the pill currently, and I don’t know whether its their brainwashing or my guilt or Im actually getting maternal or what because Im seriously considering to stop the pill by the end of this year. I spoke to my husband about it, and he did not say anything which clearly means he is not ready to plan a family yet. Even though he was the one who was super excited when we had found out initially and had even started thinking of names and how we would do up the nursery!
My question to you all is, how long does it usually take for one to conceive after getting off the pill? (I had just started Yasmin in Oct 2011 after a 4-5 month break and got preggo in Nov) but otherwise it has been pretty effective for me since 2010…Also, does one need to give gaps when on the pill or one can take it for 1-2 years non stop? I have a family doctor here in Canada but would be changing her soon as all my inlaws go to her and now shes been telling us to plan a pregnancy too which i find pretty bizarre as i’ve read articles online which say one should ttc after about 10months-1yr post miscarriage as the body takes time to recover! Anyway…Im really looking forward to your input and suggestions…thank you
… physically I’m not sure how long of a break you need, I think the mental and emotional readiness is far more important than anything else, if you feel ready just weeks instead of months after, then go for it.
& feeling sorry for you face’ …