do most of the time people get married for the sake of getting married? because their getting old etc
i feel most arranged marriages are marriages for the sake of getting married , to say we have to get married in life i might as well just marry you and see how it goes...
Not necessarily. Even people who had arranged marriages did have an inner desire to have someone to share their life with, to have kids with, etc. I don’t think we can make a blanket statement about those who have had an arranged marriage. Maybe individuals who have gone this route are less discriminating with rishtas, but we can’t assume that they never had a desire for marriage and companionship. Even after marriage…many of them…would not be willing to so easily part with their spouse either. And of course, there are various reasons for this (kids, social stigma, etc)…but also because you’ve formed an intimate bond with another person. We all have different life goals and preferences, but I think that as we grow older…and older…and older…and older…the desire to have someone who genuinely loves and accepts us as we are and for who we are…with all our outward flaws (wrinkles, gray hair, no hair, pot bellies etc etc) and all our personally quirks increases. I think that even people who have a paradoxical fear of marriage and commitment go through alternating phases where they want to have a bond that’s more meaningful and stable and not a series of fleeting and empty unions.
yes..most marriages are for the sake of that…some do turnout to be good some not…it is what it is…
My psychologist told me that the only thing that gives you happiness is relationships so if you dont have a spouse then make sure you have a strong support circle. This Kacchi woman we know was imported, her hubby was a violent drunk, she got divorced and has loads of friends and seems to be visiting people all the time and enjoying her life. I think I would die if sth happened to my wife.
Well Sooner or later or you are going to do it. At a certain age, it’s sort of difficult to manage without a partner. I don’t only mean physically but emotionally you need someone to be with you. Most of marriages suffer after a while as the emotional part doesn’t happen which leads to fights, arguments etc.
Personally I would want to marry when I think I’m getting too old. I can’t really imagine life without a significant other because it would be too lonely and I would miss out on too many life events. Because of my upbringing I’ve never thought about getting a girlfriend so I never have, so an arranged marriage for the sake of starting my married life would be my best bet.
A lot of brown people get married to do the deed, but if fornication was normal in our culture then maybe we’d get married for something more meaningful.
Getting married in its own right is a worthy goal to have. We dont always achieve our goals nevertheless having them is important. Ive felt there are several similarities between attitudes toward choosing a major and getting married, such as:
1- Some believe college is a scam and never go to college or do non-degree courses.
2- Some want to go to college but cannot afford it or have health/aptitude issues.
3- Some go to college yet dont decide on a major in hopes of stumbling upon the onewhile taking various divergent courses half-halfheartedly. A poor grade is all that it takes to eliminate a major. Short term interest reigns supreme. This is a lot like dating in which lot of time/money likely gets wasted beforethe one` is found, if found at all.
4- Some know what major they want and get it from day 1.
5- Some have shortlisted majors with assigned priorities based on their likes/dislikes/non-negotiables. If they don`t get the one which had higher priority, they go to the next choice and then put all their heart into it from day 1. If none of the ones on their priority list admits them, they wait for the next admission cycle and improve their application.
6- Some drop out. Some restart but find it way harder, while some completely give up.
All the best! Lead a happy conjugal life.