getting married

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hey everyone

i am new to this thread , i found it on the net whilst searching for bridal stuff so far it has been a great help to me .

im getting married in november (Inshallah) to my lovely fiance of two years. i cant wait , time is going so slowww!!

i wanted to ask all the newly weds out there , does the love that you have between you and ur partner change once u r married?

also how many married ladies are still working ?

many thanks

Hina

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Welcome to Gupshup. You will be new to every thread atleast once, anyhow I hope you enjoy Life Style Forums. :)

Congrats on your upcoming wedding. I am sure our married girls over here will be able to answer your questions. :)

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thanks , i meant to say i am new to gupshup . yep w8ing for replies but i guess abhi saray so rahay hain

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Hi Hina!

Although I am not newly wed, I though I'd reply to your thread!!!! (I have been married 5 years)

The love between you will change because you then become husband and wife and you have all the ideals that you want to fulfill. Your relationship will change to that of a husband and wife, and you become reliant on each other/used to each other more than you will realise!

On your second question - I am still working, I have worked full time throughout the time I have been married. The only exception is for the past two ramzan's I have worked part time - so that I can have time at home to prepare a good iftari etc for my husband

When you are married, your first and last thought is to please your husband in everyday life. Yes, there are rows and arguments, but EVERYONE has them.

Enjoy married life.......it's a new challenge. One thing though - always make sure that there are only 2 of you in the marriage................

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Thank you wannabe _ a _mum ,

yes i am looking forward to married life , but i just dont want us to become boring and that love and excitement to be lost.

mashallah my in laws are very nice as they are also my taya and tayee. ,my sister is married to my fiance's older brother and they are all absolutely lovely.

also i will not be stayin with my in laws as we will cum bk to england ( wedding in pak ) my fiance and family are form canada.

haha me geeting scared now . lolz

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37 views and only 2 replies , how rude

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Hi Mizzrani!

Ive been married for 4 yrs and ive got a 3 old daughter. I married out of the culture. My hubz is muslim but hes English. Married life is great. I dont think the love changes once u get married...in fact it get stronger...mayb its cos we have our daughter as well but i feel it gets stronger.
I used to b a secondary school teacher b4 i got married....now im a stay at home mum but in the evening i also work as a fitness instructor teaching classes at my gym.

Enjoy GS and congrats on ur wedding.

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Thanks Amani ,

its good to hear postive things ! also being a fitness instructor is fantastic as u will always be inshape and hubby will never moan lolz

x
Hina

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Well i've only been married for just over 2 months but i don't think the love really changes, it does actually become stronger. Other factors change of course, you have to work hard at understanding each other at all times, caring for each other, putting each other first, but it's a great feeling. I'm also still working as a graphics designer and product developer which is nice, however i wish i wasn't sometimes! My husband works as an events organiser and DJ so is out a lot of evenings when i'm at home, so it's even harder as i really just want to spend the day with him when he's at home instead of come into work! But these are things where you have to be strong i suppose!

Congratulations on your wedding and i hope all goes well for you! And enjoy the lead up to the wedding because it will come and go SO fast you won't believe it! x

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hey Natty ,

i saw ur pictures and wedding trailer mashallah u look fantastic together and im sure u had a fantastic day too . many thanks for the advice.
i am enjoying the lead up but at the moment it just seem as if days are dragging hahaha.

x

Hina

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No, it just gets better. The relationship does change after marriage, and you go through many ups and downs..but the love and comitment you feel towards each other is uncomparable.. :blush:

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Hi Natty,

I think I have fallen in love wiht your wedding video… i was so against a video for my wedding coz i hate the pakistani videos of the same old stuff girl enters they play a bollywood song blah blah… I was wondering if you don’t mind putting up ur whole video… so i can show it to a videographer here in bahrain… and get them to do what i want them to do… my nikah function (not doing the rukhsatee, don’t care for crying in front of strangers) takes place in abt 2.5 months… would really appreciate it …thanks :slight_smile:

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i am not marreid ....but wants to wish u a very happy married life.......cheers:)

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darling u have the wrong thread and the wrong quote .. lolzz

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hiiiiiiiiiii we got the same name :hugz:

best of luck ,
oh yea i have been married for a short 11 yrs and our love only grows every day.

harships and moments do come but ur heart always tell u the right thing..

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thanx chanel1122

yehh hin33 we have indeed ... dts another hina i knw now .. lolz mashalah 11 yrs is amazin and may ur love grow each day for as long as u livee .. thanx for d advicee

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things only improve with the passage of time inshallah!

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congrats on the upcomming wedding, wish you both the best!
i've been married almost a year now (was nikkahfied for almost 2 yrs prior), and i would say that the love and the relationship changes but it isnt a negative change
before you are married you dont see each other very often, and when you do you are both in the best mood and making the most out of your time together. living together changes a lot of things, no matter how close you were before you will find you still have a lot to learn about each other, it takes a lot of patience and understanding but as long as you try to accomodate each other you love does become stronger
i think it always helps to treat your partner as you wish to be treated yourself--- ask about each other's day, do something nice for each other (just small things) and try to put the other person first
im not working but i do go to school full time, alhamdulilah that works out perfectly for us because i would bore myself to death alone at home and my husband works really irregular hours
hope that helps, oh and natty is soooo right, enjoy all the planning AND the waiting b/c in a few months u and your husband will be like, it's over already!

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Cute Hina,

i m merried from 3 months only, still i will give you hints on relationship changes. Well it changes alot, after merried you have more responsibilities which may lead to arguments some times. and girl has to be calm to tolerate evry thing. i think supportive husband is a blessing. dont wrry u have ur elsder sis there to guide u....so no problem fr u...

enjoy ur wedding day it will pass so fast that u will think it was a dream. mine was like this...i waited alot and planned alot but when i gt merried the tiem was so fast and elapsed quickly i dont believe that..............

keep smiling....

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Depends a lot how you define and "measure" Love?