Getting Married - good or bad?

[Mirch]

Re: Getting Married - good or bad?

@sharklaser2

I think excessive expectations are bad surely? If you go in with a clean sheet with relatively few expectations, surely the chances of disappointment are less? (I guess the arranged marriage is based on this foundation)
I don’t mind basic expectations that are obvious (not cheat, lies etc) but when expectations are large, and aren’t fulfilled, then they get broken and leads to unhappiness.

As I said, I don’t mind celebrating bdays etc, but I would rather expectations not be set and celebrate them in a way that I think may be fun, rather than there being a bunch of expectations and me not having the foggiest what those may be.

Sir , we are social beings , we will always have reasonable expectations of each other. Since you seem to be rational enough I am sure you will go for a wife who is sane , rational and intelligent enough to have reasonable expectations off of you.
I am sure she will not expect you to fetch moon or stars for her but if she would expect you to wear certain kind of clothes , have certain kind of furniture in your home or celebrate her , yours or your kids birthday in a certain way and you would have some objection to certain aspects of those you could come to an agreement like rational human beings. But expecting that she does not have any say on all these matters or other and just give your unconditional love , live like a mute , behave like a statue , have no emotions and feelings is a bit of a stretch .