I had this discussion on chat with a friend, and she said that girls don t want/like long engagements for like example 5 years 
Now I was wondering why not?
I know men have problems controlling their hormones, but is that the only reason?
I mean cant they wait for like 4/5 years and then get married?
Or are they just shallow and cant wait :o ( or am I being shallow 
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I mean its not that long, and if one loves another/cares why not wait till time is right?
I think the model needs to be changed. Try dating for a while..then a shorter engagement and then the marriage. It is the only way. 
I only willing to date /go out with the one I m engaged with, so I think we r in a dilemma over here 
I agree with your friend. If you are around a girl you really like, chances are you wont wait to wait 5 years, neither would the girl.
However, it CAN happen, but I dont think many girls would like to wait that long, nor their parents. Especially girls today. We've all heard about 15 year engagements in the past, but its not so common today.
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*Originally posted by Munni: *
I agree with your friend. If you are around a girl you really like, chances are you wont wait to wait 5 years, neither would the girl.
However, it CAN happen, but I dont think many girls would like to wait that long, nor their parents. Especially girls today. We've all heard about 15 year engagements in the past, but its not so common today.
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Like I said na, If I she asks me to wait for 10 years I ll wait then :o If she really wants to wait, or if there is no other option
but apparently I m the only one who thinks like that :D
Personally i m soo not for long engagements..the whole gettin to kno process.. an in the 4-5 yr engagment... u get to kno the person.. an after 3.5 yrs u realizee ahhh this person is SOOOOOOO not for me.. n u break it of.. waste of time... shaddi ke baad to banda phir bhi compromise ker hi leta hai..
Why would anyone want to be engaged for more then 2 years? I mean thats crazy. I see it this way if a person wants to get married, then that means they are stable enough to get married, so why a long engagment? I for one perfer a year tops. Only b/c its just enough time to do and get everything ready and 2nd no need to long engagments.
i think sometimes it cant be helped..
my younger bro got engaged last year and he was only 21.. and yeah it was like an on the spot decision by fam members in pakistan...
but he aint getting married for another 3-4 years... his fiance has 2 older sisters he gotta get married... and me.. hehe
neways they arent bad... engagements provide security.. and if u can stick by someone for 5 years.. its a good sign..
but id prob say max 1 year for myself.. (my bro wont let me put off his wedding any longer on my account)
long enagements SUCK, especially if you have been going out with your fiance for 4 years!! I will be engaged 2 and 1/2 years before my wedding!! :-(
if its an arranged marriage, then i think the engagement should be at least 1 year so that way they can at least figure out if they are even compatible or not!
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*Originally posted by Praetextatus: *
Like I said na, If I she asks me to wait for 10 years I ll wait then :o If she really wants to wait, or if there is no other option
but apparently I m the only one who thinks like that :D
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guys are generally secure and more trusting.
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Personally i m soo not for long engagements..the whole gettin to kno process.. an in the 4-5 yr engagment... u get to kno the person.. an after 3.5 yrs u realizee ahhh this person is SOOOOOOO not for me.. n u break it of.. waste of time... shaddi ke baad to banda phir bhi compromise ker hi leta hai..
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well said .... :-)
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guys are generally secure and more trusting.
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PA, you are asking for trouble. :D
Re: Getting engaged 
some times people are concerned that if there too much of a gap between angagement and wedding than the guy or the girl may change their mind. I suppose that can happen
hmmmmmm…delaying for 4 5 yrz …thanks for the tip …:k:
Preaxtatus: Focusing onour desi society and cultural Values...even lifestyles, a long engagement is said to be unsuitable due to the petty issues of both the families.
During the engagemnt, the girl is torn between obeyin both her in-laws and parents (in case of a difference of opinion) and both families do tend to get overwhelmed at lil problems..usually resulting in a break up or tension between the couple which may effect their marotal life later on as well.
So for a Pakistani cultures..long engagements arent that suitable, maximum an year an a half.
Bu tthen it also depends on the families and the values they have.
A lot of complications can arise in 5 years. Who wants to take the risk?
Hmm, being a finance guy i understand that the longer the tenor, higher the risk premium
Lambay arsay ke chakkaron i mean engagement main thori tension younh hoti hai ke donon aik doosray ko ‘kaafi’ achi tarha samajh jaate hain aur kal ke hoor main insaan ko tension i mean kharabian nazar aane lagti hain…is liay compromise aur adjustment which is generally in order from both the parties may not be there.
Jaldi jaldi game karni chahiay yar…itna risk kaun lay? 
Wallah-o-alam :halo:
^ lahola wala 
Khanzada: Let me help you out chanda. To limit your risk, get some indemnification fom the fiancee in the form of a pre-nup-nup and a chastity belt. And re-insure your risk by getting a hoochie on the side. I also have something on offshore accounts in the caymans with a local vamp to spread the risk, if you are interested. :)
Matsui: That was a good one You may well write a book on marriage risks-to spread or not to spread-and how?