Re: Getting a career because your husband may die......
I hear this argument thrown around a lot here.....
its said so often and so deterministic as if its bound to happen to each and everyone..godforbid......
why don't you people also mention the risk of having miscarriage/abnormal kids/pregnancy complications as a result of having kids later? Is there some sort of a less risk of that happening compared to someone's husband dying/disabled?
Why you people give onesided twisted view on every matter?
That isn't fair.
No one stops a woman from getting married during her education - the issue comes up when the families they marry into or are marrying do not find their education important enough to allow them to complete.
I always heard this and always thought...what are the chances of that happening?
As it happens, its true in my immediate family AND one of my best friends. One of them supported four kids with her education. One of them is supporting her husband's illness and medications through her professional job and supporting her child and household single handedly. I am SO proud of her...she never complains but you know what she does say?
"If he hadn't pushed me to get through school...where would we be?"
I don't think fair to say a woman investing in herself is a frivolous thing and she should marry first. She should marry when a situation that is good for her comes along...its different for everyone. BUT BUT BUT she should NOT compromise on her life skills because she WILL need them at some point. A woman's self esteem relies heavily on her own accomplishments and her knowing she can support herself gives her confidence as well as respect in a marriage.
Re: Getting a career because your husband may die......
whats all the derailing about education? it was about career.....and you people harp on about education education education......education is over for most people by mid 20's.......so please stop spinning the discussing......
owhere did i say women shouldn't work on themselves or whatever.......but just that when someone is advising women to carry on with their careers and putting aside the marriage thing........i guess it would only be fair when someone says that ''your husband may die/disable/divorce'' so keep focusing on career and defer the marriage till whenever........then i say ''yea do that...but you may have a miscarriage/abnormal kids etc etc.'' right??
Re: Getting a career because your husband may die......
I've never met a SINGLE person who's said put marriage to the side and pursue your career...lol
This is rare, not the norm so you can simply answer them the way you've shown you will. Bass Qissa khatam. :)
Most women do want to get married at a decent age and settle down. Most women would mean majority. You will always find extremes though. Just like you'll find wife beaters...you will also find those.
Re: Getting a career because your husband may die......
I've never met a SINGLE person who's said put marriage to the side and pursue your career...lol
This is rare, not the norm so you can simply answer them the way you've shown you will. Bass Qissa khatam. :)
Most women do want to get married at a decent age and settle down. Most women would mean majority. You will always find extremes though. Just like you'll find wife beaters...you will also find those.