Re: Get your act together, Ladies
Sahar, in order to follow even half of your points, one thing that is really important is that you MUST have confidence and a strong sense of self-esteem. How a person gets themselves into bad situations is due to their inability to believe in themselves.
Nobody is perfect. However, that doesn't make you inadequate or a failure. It is important to recognize your own strengths and qualities. If you are able to recognize it, and truely believe it, that's how you 'start' to give yourself confidence.
Another important thing that I learned is that you cannot allow anybody else to define who you are .... be it your parents, friends, siblings, husbands/boyfriends. You cannot allow their opinions of you to define who you are and you cannot live your life based on their definitions of who you are.
This comes back to your confidence level. Recognize who you are. Acknowledge your strengths and weaknesses. Just because someone says something negative to you, about you (i.e. you are a "fill in the blank"), does it make it true? Are you really whatever this person is saying?
Give yourself credit and start building your confidence and self-esteem.
A lot of what you have written is common sense. However, you won't put it into practice unless you actually believe it ... and in order to believe even half of these points, you need to believe in yourself first.