You are sooo right :k:
Re: Get Your Act Together Boys
verrrrrrrrrrrrryyyyyyyyyyyyy interesting!!!
guys u should try to understand gals feelings
gals you should try co operate a little with the guy
and guys if you are guys that doesnt mean that u people are always right and you should keep your i am mr fix it all up attitude to yourself ;)
oh and all of you
read men are from mars women are from venus:)
Re: Get Your Act Together Boys
i sent this to my fiance, and he says ..."what the hell does this have to do with me." he this its a ****ty, statement lol i got yelled at :(
Some bright ideas of women who have all the time in their hands to express their expert opinions on the complex man-woman psychology and relationships on these forums.
O bright ones, if you are just being stage monkeys and enjoying yourselves here, thats fine. If this is induced by the frustrations in your life, and hiding in your bedroom and venting and ranting on the forums helps, thats fine. However, if you actually really believe the crap you say, and you believe you are sane, then I am sorry but you are equally (if not more) disgusting than the shallow materialistic men you bash all day.
TOPIC=OWNED.
i sent this to my fiance, and he says ..."what the hell does this have to do with me." he this its a ****ty, statement lol i got yelled at :(
I would post something but I can't think of a more appropriate reply to this than intoxicated's avatar.
im pretty sure a girl's mother does the SAME for her too. so why do they have to leave their parents and go live with a guy? and why shouldn't the girl's mother interfere with things also just like the boy's mom does?
the main thing is to find a BALANCE in your relationships with the mother and the wife. islam has given both of the women in your life numerous rights, don't exploit them or ignore them and your life will be great.
THAAANK YOUUUUUUUUUU you are sooo ryte
Lafanter, lets make a distinction. Supporting your parents when they did so much for you is very important. However, not every MIL and FIL of a woman needs to live with their kids and DIL's. Many elderly are perfectly good living on their own - and when they do get nonfunctional, nurses can be hired, or they can move in with a son or daughter and their family. I agree that people should cooperate. If my in-laws move in with me, I'd be fine with it.
Versus in-laws who constantly interfere in your marriage decisions that really should be between you and your husband. For example:
Does your mom have the right to decide what dishwear you and I would have, and the COST OF WHICH is burdened on MY parents, and if MY MOM doesn't buy the right plate design then all hell breaks loose? Is that normal?
Does your mom have the right to tell you what to do with your paycheck? What allowance to give your wife? To tell you that your wife only needs 3 pairs of saris for the year, and to give her the rest of the check? Believe it or not, it happens.
Does your mom have the right to handle the income coming into your home and divide it up as she sees fit, when maybe her own husband has his income/savings?
Does your mom/sister have the right to comment to your wife about her clothes, about the way she washes dishes, about her methodology of house cleaning, of what she feeds your kids?
Do they have a right to compare your wife with all the other rishtas your family was entertaining with you and throw that in your face?
If these stories are sounding ridiculous, believe me, they happen. Most of them were reported here on GS by victimized women.
So when I say "cut the cord", I mean that you as a MAN (rather than a spoilt boy) need to set boundaries as to where your mom can and cannot interfere in your life.
Just like you don't let her decide what music you listen to, what concerts you go to, what girls you hit on and wink at on the streets of Pakistan, you should be man enough not to let your mother ruin your marriage.
exactlyyy
In the context you describe I agree completely. But, not in the context that it was posted on. I would much rather someone punch me in the gonads than for someone to talk ill about my mother and sister - especially not my wife.
No two ways about it man.
acha? and what if your mother or sister says something about your wife? you gonna punch them too? you gonna refuse to see them too? (like u tok abt divorcing ur wife u gonna "divorce" (i.e. not see) ir mother and sister too?)
and you know what the funny thing is ? MILs and SILs of a girl usually have very innocent ways of saying something about your wife jis mein aapko yeh laggega innocent comment hai but it wont be and it will leave impression on ur mind aur phir biwi mein aapko kharaabiyan nazar aan lagg parrengi..unhe toh aap kuch nahi kahoge kyun god forbid your mother is practically god...what abnt ur wife? why the hell did u bring her if u cant tolerate a damn thing she says against ur family najhin toh tum maaroge ya divorce doge but any lallu panju from ur family can say anything about her and you will listen happily...why the double standard,....
i hv an advice for u until you are able to treat your wife with at least equal respect as ur mother if not more (which she deserves since she is ur life partner not ur mom) ...please dont get married....
u guys are a huge pet peeve of mine tum sab log ache bhai bann jaate ho ache bete hote ho lekin ache shohar toh duur ki baat tum log shohar hi nahin bann paate
the way you tok is the way many guys think...biwi toh jaise dushman hai na woh toh apni besti bhi karvaaye tumse tumhaare gharwalon ke peeche...par khuda na kare woh koi baat kar jaiye kisi k baarey mein tum baras parroge...you guys really piss me off.
^ So here is what this paindu wife beater's wife would do if my sister ever insulted her. She would take it up with my sister and resolve it without any name calling. It works like a charm.
yea and then ur sister would come sobbing to you make up lies about what mean bhabhi said to her...and then you would bash your wife again?