rida cheer up!!! InshaAllah eveyrthing will get better:):) Several questions first..
how long have u been in this relationship?
how is ur rapport with him?
do u guys have some things in common?
How often r u guys together?
Is it because you r new to the relationship and romance hasnt developed yet?
or were u romantic b4 and its been lost?
In my opinion, the best thing to do is be open in a relationship--if something is on ur mind--let ur hubby know wht u feel--you can help each other more than any of the advice on the forum...if u r lacking romance (maybe u had it b4)...let him know, but not in an accusing manner (let him know "I feel as if we need more romance, we need to be in touch with each other intimately--emotionally and physically, or I love you and I want to be able to express it as we did before).
This is two way communication:) First acknowledge the problem then help each other out: maybe you r stressed or maybe he feels as if u r ok and perfectly satisfied by his love for u). A lot of guys rnt as verbal and cannot read signs...sometimes u just have to tell them directly......
As for romance tips--give each other time, but have ur own time as well...too much togetherness can be a start of boredom:) Do things together! Yoga class/dance...make dinner together....feed each other chocolates/sweets.......do things on the spur of the moment--have little surprises (a gift waiting for him next to breakfast).....a warm bubble bath waiting at home........:) send e-cards in the middle of the day:)
just dont bombard the person with too much lovey dovey ness--just surprise him when he least expects it and inshaAllah he will start as well.....
most of all be comfortable with urself:)
Ive posted a dua on GS a number of times: Its honestly a miracle--for every person who is looking for that special someone and for everyone who has that person and wants Allah to protect and make their relationship better and better......
Rabbana Hablana min azwaajina wadhurriy-yatina, qurrata 'ayioni wa-jalna lil-muttaqeena Imaama
^X2, thats the perfect advice. The very best thing to put the spark back in the marriage. You dont even need lots of money - go camping! If you HAVE the money, spend the night in a motel, go to a show or movie and a nice dinner. Do something completely different, out of the ordinary. All the other daily tasks, trials and tribulations can wait for 24 hours!
So like Nike says, "Just DO it!"
i believe in it, in the middle of brutal winter, with workload at a massive level, no one around to help us with kids at all, kids taking a lot of time with their needs and appoitnments, we sometimes did really really small stuff, like meet up at a cafe down the street from the kids day care, have a coffee and a scone, st and talk about our day week, whats going on, any things coming up that we want to look into, play a board game..i mean jst 45 minutes of that and it just meant so much.
i believe in it, in the middle of brutal winter, with workload at a massive level, no one around to help us with kids at all, kids taking a lot of time with their needs and appoitnments, we sometimes did really really small stuff, like meet up at a cafe down the street from the kids day care, have a coffee and a scone, st and talk about our day week, whats going on, any things coming up that we want to look into, play a board game..i mean jst 45 minutes of that and it just meant so much.
Wow .
They can make a commmercial around it,
Coffee : 4 dollars
Scone : 5 dollars
45 minutes of family time : Priceless.:D
we dont get much time either to spend with one another.. no actually we do, but its all about doing all chores and household stuff... so during our lunch breaks we sometimes meet up.. he'll come pick me up, we'll go have lunch and pretend we are dating again.. its nice :)
Hi
how can I get romance back in my married life?
any tips
experiences
suggestions etc
Spend an entire day together doing the very simple things you both enjoy. Do everything together. In the evening, get very nicely dressed, go out, have dinner at a nice place, take a walk in a park, dance without music and kiss like it's your first time.
good luck!
