cousin from pak is coming to stay with us, and i hate her, we dont get along, her dad is an ************* who messed up the family, her mum is my mums sister, which is why we still bother with them, and now shes coming, just when im about to give birth, i wanted the last few wweeks with my mum and family to be around me, i wanted to be comfotble, if i get contractions or whatever i want to be able to ease my pain by doing whateve ri want, walking around however, in whatever im wearing..now with a guest coming have to be all formal and whatnot and dress apropriatly…so bloody annoying…im not in the mood for her, no one likes her, yet she decided it herself that she will stay with us, her mum feels sharminda because of her husbands actions, and the house being too full for her daughter too, but still doesnt stop them sending her here.
peed off big time.
-in case i didnt mention, im staying at mum from now, need to be around people in case of emergency, so me and my hubs in my old room, theres plenty of space, it was otherwise a guest room before, so now we are here, theres 8 of us in total in a 4 bed house, its now full, with a baby on the way…what makes people think theres space for them to come here anmd stay for a year to study without asking first…hate her.
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Don't be formal around her, pretend she's not even there .... why do you need to keep up appearances when you don't even like her.... just do what you want to do :) So who's there besides your parents and husband, your siblings?
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mum cant say no, its her older sis daughter.....apparently shes only goona stay for 2weeks, and then move out...yeh right....they all say that.
MIA-its just husband, siblings and mum dad...so no one else from outside.....
and i have to keep an appearance, as in, cant walk around in my comfy nightdress, no one stopping me, but il just feel uncomfoortble with a guest in the house, walking aorund like that, or just being in pain, when theres a guest or someone in front of me, i try to refrain from screaming/crying etc and this is when im not preg, now that i am, and these pains are gna be alot more severe, how the hell am i gna keep face when theres someone who im not comf with sitting in front of me....i jsut wanted to be around my mum family,at this time....and now shes turning up....and they should have their own akal not to stay in a full house already.....but nooooooooooooooooooooo
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awww… hey, hopefully she will move out in 2 weeks. Don’t worry, the pain is not gonna be too bad unless you’re really in labor and at that time you won’t even care who’s in front of you or not I screamed like a banshee in front of my devar when he drove me and hubby to the hospital cuz hubby was too nervous to drive lol and this is my devar that I used to be very formal with
Focus on yourself and the baby and being comfy, baaqi formalities ko goli maaro.
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I think its so strange when people just show up like that...lol
tell me about it, just because your related doesnt mean you can take adv. Holidays are different, mum kept saying how they put up with us when we go there, but hey, its a holiday and i would prefer to go to a hotel, but seeing the family is different on hols, if i was going to live there, for a year, i wouldnt assume they would have me, even if space was availble....
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Tell her parents and her that you are so excited that she is coming, that it will be great to have an extra pair of hands to help out around the house with the baby. Say you’re so happy you can rely on her to handle the diaper changes and stay up with the baby when s/he is crying, especially since you’ll need your rest right after the delivery. Let her know how grateful you are that she has decided to come at a time that you need her so much, especially since we all know newborns are not easy to deal with. Tell her how relieved you are that you have her to rely on for all your needs while your hubby is working and your mum is taking care of the rest of the household.
And if that doesn’t scare her away, you can’t say you didn’t warn her.
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OK, so, first of all if your mum can't say no, then YOU say now. You're the most important person in that house right now and your comfort is of the utmost importance. Anyhow, now that someone has dropped the ball and accepted this uninvited guest, this is what you do, whenever the baby wakes up crying at night, wake your cousin up for some help or the other, truth is, you probably will have legitimate need for help, so make HER help and if she refuses, that gives you the PERFECT opportunity to ask her to leave.
I screamed like a banshee in front of my devar when he drove me and hubby to the hospital cuz hubby was too nervous to drive lol and this is my devar that I used to be very formal with 
Thats actually a very good idea, you’re awesome Sahar