Hey everyone…I am currently expecting my first child inshahllah in Jan. Since the beginning of my pregnancy I never really cared about the gender of my baby and always prayed to Allah swt to give me a healthy happy baby..
We just found out that we are having a girl and I am soooooooo thrilled and excited!
On the other hand, my in laws are not so happy. My husbands older bro has a 2 yr old daughter so my mother in law is disappointed cuz “there is already a girl in the family” and she wanted a boy.
I am so hurt and feel so sad and I cannot even talk to my husband cuz he’s just gna be like “plz understand where she is coming from”
Why are girls so unwanted?? I dnt get it!! Plz help me and give me some positive words as I am so upset about it.
They all love my husbands older brothers daughter so much and I am soooooooo surprised they reacted the way they did! She even refused to come to America to be near me when I deliver!!
Re: Gender disappointment
dont be upset i can understand ur feelings last year i was in the same situation was expecting my first baby n mum in law wanted it b boy but v were expecting girl i was afraid tht me n huby ddint tell any1 v were always like its surprize but trust me when my baby came she was disappointed at first but the moment she saw her she was happy n now she thank ALLAH 4 blessing us wth daughter bc my mum in law never liked girls n she herself has no daughter even my FIL has no sis so she is the 1st one my mun in law apoligized 2 me n my family 4 her rude attitiude n she realized all her mistakes when she started feeling 4 my daughter n she was like agr koi meri poti k sath asa kary tu mujhe kasay laga ga n mei ne tum logo ko kitni hurt kya so u dont worry inshahallah when baby vl come everything vl b fne n as long as u n ur huby r happy nothing else matter enjoy ur pregnacy n may ALLAH bless u wth a healthy baby AMEEN n may ALLAH soften ur mum in law's heart :)
Re: Gender disappointment
I'm sorry you have to be on the receiving end of your mom in law's na shukra pan and bias, but rest easy knowing you and hubby are having a healthy, happy baby and that is the most important thing.
Re: Gender disappointment
I've been in the same situation. BIL had a daughter and when I got pregnant everyone wanted a boy except for me and my husband. We both truly, madly, deeply wished for our first child to be a daughter. It was the happiest day of my life when our daughter entered this world. MIL showed disappointment at first but eventually she came around and showed a lot of affection for the baby. I am sure your's will too. Don't let this get to you and bring you down during this happy time.