Is it morally correct to mix and socialise with gay people as though with anybody else who is heterosexual? Looking back at my 3rd year at uni I can now see things from a broader picture and often think to myself "What on earth was I doing???. Strongly influenced by people around me, I found myself surrounded by all sorts of wierd and wonderful people. It’s so difficult to realise what you’re actually doing at the time, telling yourself that you’re still in control of the situation and are not influenced by anything.
I recall having a gay couple over for dinner - my friends best friend and his gora boyfriend. I was all cool with it, just a bit uncomfortable with their holding hands and smooching on the sofa but now I realise, no it wasn’t cool and have begun to question the strength of my “well-placed” morals. What also pisses me off was that they’d always pitch up coz they realised we (my friend and I) would always welcome them with samosas and coffee so they took advantage of the situation and never ever returned our hospitality, but that’s besides the point.
Another friend of ours is in a permanent relationship with a lecturer at uni, who is probably thrice his age (I kid you not) and looks like he’s going to die of aids any day now. The thought of them making lurv makes me want to vomit my guts out. I am so grossed out right now.
I think I’m going through an emotional and moral dilemma - help meee!!!
I wouldn’t feel comfortable with friends or couples of ANY sex who came to see me and made out in front of me. I have friends who are homosexual, but I never asked nor entered into their choices - just as I would nbever have done so with my heterosexual friends. My friendships are not based on sexual orientation. This sex charged society sees only sex and sexual orientation in relationships, when in truth friendships should be based on something else.
I would object on the other hand to being taken advantage of for my hospitality, and I would not encourage friends of any sex who weren’t capable of sensitivity to my feelings and couldn’t kept private questions … private!
I wouldnt like any couple, gay or not, smooching in my house when invited over for dinner. It's not something I would do at anyone elses house either.
As far as socializing goes, thats upto you really. Plus, many gays are not open about themselves being gay, so how would you really know if the company you kept was gay or not? In the end everyone sets their own limits and boundaries. It's a choice you have to make. smile
Learn to love yourself, then learn to love one-another
Shirin, I'm also rather confused! lol But that' because people are telling me different things about whether to associate with gay ppl or not but I guess it's something I have to decide on my own.
Yes you're both right, I'd feel uncomfortable even if they were heterosexual.
Trinity - your nick reminded me of the Holy spirit, Son and Father.
Personally, I am VERY uncomfy with homosexuals. Yes, I am homophobic. The site of men/women kissing the same gender makes me hoark. I have had my own experiences encountering gay men/women and once approached by a lesbian couple at school. Those are stories for a different thread.
I say as long as their lifestyle doesn't interfere with yours at any place just let them be, their like ants crawling all over shiver.
These are the so called carpet munchers (slang term for lesbian) and pillow biters (slang for gay man) of our time who need to be condemned once and for all like in Lut's time.
Jitna Diya Sarkar Nay Mujko, Itni Meri Auqat Nahi, Yeh Saab Tumhara Karam Hai Aqa, Mujh Mein Aisi Koi Baat Nahin.
Whatsoever I’ve feared has come to life
Whatsoever I’ve fought off became my life
Just when everyday seemed to greet me with a smile
Sunspots have faded
And now I’m doing time
Cause I fell on black days
Muzna, I don’t mind their sexual orientation but I am beginning to question my own attitude towards it all. Gay men can be a real laugh! But yes, Islamically it’s wrong and that’s what some people have pointed out to me. My mother on the other hand is perfectly cool with my associating with them.
Coconut I do understand your p.o.v. and that’s what is giving me second thoughts about how such people will infuence my values and beliefs. They say one should be in the company of people who are a good influence, especially when it comes to Islam.
My nick didnt mean to sound like the Christian trinity…I just liked the sound of it!