Good / bad, reserved / easy to mingle people exist in all societies, communities and culture. But sometimes, some communities are famous for their interaction and making friends easily. Punjabi / Sikh people are coming to my mind, while writing these lines.
Do you think that some communities got these traits from their culture or its something that vary from individual to individual?
Any experience when you heard of / had perception of a particular community being rude and when you actually met someone from that community turned, it out to be otherwise?
I think it's an individual act as cold people also exist in punjabi community but, percentage may vary from community to community.
My friend once told me the sign of coldness and she claims that she is totally right :D
And that sign is :
If you shake hand with someone and the other person just prefers to have a finger shake(barely touching your hand and then retreating it immediately) it means that person has some attitude.
I think it's an individual act as cold people also exist in punjabi community but, percentage may vary from community to community.
My friend once told me the sign of coldness and she claims that she is totally right :D
And that sign is :
If you shake hand with someone and the other person just prefers to have a finger shake(barely touching your hand and then retreating it immediately) it means that person has some attitude.
attitude or shyness?
Do you think living in Urban / rural area affects people's attitude towards others?
Lets try to understand it with examples. People living in big cities like Karachi have less to no interaction even with neighbors and people living in towns / villages have more interaction with each other. What is reason behind such behavior? lack of time or concept of privacy?
Lets try to understand it with examples. People living in big cities like Karachi have less to no interaction even with neighbors and people living in towns / villages have more interaction with each other. What is reason behind such behavior? lack of time or concept of privacy?
Again the reason is attitude :p I don't think people living in big cities don't have enough time to interact with neighbors.Those who wish to interact can easily do that, for example there are certain areas in karachi like green town or shah faisal colony where people are very friendly with their neighbors.Keeping current situation in mind another reason could be fear of meeting new neighbor (who recently shifted and you don't have a clue who are they or where did they come from).
I think people from different areas of same city are different when it comes to interaction. People from Lalu Khet may be more interactive than living in defense / Clifton, Karachi. Same trend may be observed among people living in Gawalmandi (andron e shehr) and those living in posh areas of Lahore. I think you are right here attitude plays some role
I think people from different areas of same city are different when it comes to interaction. People from Lalu Khet may be more interactive than living in defense / Clifton, Karachi. Same trend may be observed among people living in Gawalmandi (andron e shehr) and those living in posh areas of Lahore. I think you are right here attitude plays some role
Actually environment of people around influence our attitude generally. For example helping strangers to reach an address is normal thing for people of Lahore. So people will generally have an attitude of helping people as much as they can. if we look at posh areas, firstly they wont tell you address, secondly if they tell it will be as ambiguous as not helpful. So people around will develop an attitude like 'Mind your own business'.
Actually environment of people around influence our attitude generally. For example helping strangers to reach an address is normal thing for people of Lahore. So people will generally have an attitude of helping people as much as they can. if we look at posh areas, firstly they wont tell you address, secondly if they tell it will be as ambiguous as not helpful. So people around will develop an attitude like 'Mind your own business'.
Why this 'mind your own business', 'personal privacy' attitude exist in posh areas, which are more educated (considered to be more educated) than other areas? Does education lead to 'keep the distance' behavior?
Why this 'mind your own business', 'personal privacy' attitude exist in posh areas, which are more educated (considered to be more educated) than other areas? Does education lead to 'keep the distance' behavior?
modern/secular education mainly focus on developing you as skillful person which should not be the only purpose of education. It should bridge the gap between rich and poor and spread equality. That will make people social and helping in real sense not in Facebook sense.
People of rural areas are not deeply religious but they claim to be religious and remember Allah when dealing with people except when dealing with others in business:p
Modern civilization have defined systematic ethics and code of practices. to me these are simply theories and nothing can be demonstrated practically through these theories. An interesting thing is people do give charity to NGOs that hold seminars for public awareness but the very same people dont want to spare few time to join those seminars, lolz.
can you give some examples from curriculum modern education which makes people aadam-bezar (in other words stop people from being social with their fellow people)?
I didnt say that modern education objectively make people unsocial. Rather it has such implications. Problem is humanity is supposed to be in a deadly need of learning science and art but when it comes to need of learning true ethics and morality, human are supposed all learned. Theory of purposelessness and personalized world does not aim at something bad apparently but it has implication of absurdity. Anyway this is another debate, code of modern ethics does not include 'sacrifice' in acts of ethics.
I didnt say that modern education objectively make people unsocial. Rather it has such implications. Problem is humanity is supposed to be in a deadly need of learning science and art but when it comes to need of learning true ethics and morality, human are supposed all learned. Theory of purposelessness and personalized world does not aim at something bad apparently but it has implication of absurdity. Anyway this is another debate, code of modern ethics does not include 'sacrifice' in acts of ethics.
I think modern societies lack concept of sharing as well. sacrifice is giving something (you have / you own) without expecting return.. but sharing is also missing in Urban areas. While in rural areas you can still observe people sharing food on occasions like Eid, etc, going to visit a person who is suffering from illness and even paying visit to neighbors for khair khairiat.. In Urban areas and mostly in west this practice is gradually becoming extinct due to concept of personal privacy, etc
^ agreed.
Few days back my elder brother went in a village to visit newly opened school by the organization he works in. Path to school was too narrow to pass a car so he parked outside the village. There was a baba-ji around, my brother asked baba-ji if it is safe to park here, out of fear of any loss or theft. Baba ji replied there is no such issue in our village you park without any fear. When my brother came back after visiting the school he saw that baba ji was sitting there beside the car to take care.
In villages normally, it is considered an embarrassment to whole village in case of loss or harm to any visitor or guest.
There are pros and cons to every other thing.
Since you all mentioned the pros , I'll mention the cons :)
Lets take mingling for instance , if you mingle more than necessary , people tend to poke their noses in your private matters such as , your husband comes late everyday..he must be upto something fishy...my husband hands over his salary to me...why doesn't yours...your daughter etc.
Now , who decides how much is 'more than necessary' ? Its the individuals involved who decide.
What may be more than necessary for me maybe the oppossite for someone else.
There are pros and cons to every other thing.
Since you all mentioned the pros , I'll mention the cons :)
Lets take mingling for instance , if you mingle more than necessary , people tend to poke their noses in your private matters such as , your husband comes late everyday..he must be upto something fishy...my husband hands over his salary to me...why doesn't yours...your daughter etc.
Now , who decides how much is 'more than necessary' ? Its the individuals involved who decide.
What may be more than necessary for me maybe the oppossite for someone else.
Now these are some private things and also looked down upon in societies where interaction is encouraged. There have been instances in recent past that people found someone dead after many days of the person's death. This much privacy didn't exist in societies where interaction was not considered as poking your nose into others personal problems
A new school has opened infront of our house and the newly hired chowkidar came yesterday with an empty bottle and asked us if we could fill it up and refriferate everyday day for him,we said yes.Today he came to pick the bottle and after drinking he said:
Ab aap k ghar ka pani me ny pee lia hy to me school k sath sath aap k ghar ki chowkidari bhe karun ga,aap log befikar ho kar jain.
I was really touched by this that sometimes very small things like filling up a water bottle matters a lot :)
you mean attitude of people living in urban areas towards people living in rural areas?
can you give some examples from curriculum modern education which makes people aadam-bezar (in other words stop people from being social with their fellow people)?