Re: Gap between children
Unfortunately it is true in present age. There can be a number of reasons for such gaps.
One sibling being given more importance by parents (unintentionally) than others on the basis of gender or any good quality in him/ her which leads to silent frustrations in the heart of the one being deprived, so he seeks other sources to vent out his anger. Also it not only creates sense of superiority in one child, but also jealousy in the other.
Quran says that the peace of hearts only lies in remembering Allah. Anyone away from religion is more likely to find other means of satisfaction which act like mirage in the desert. So the struggles continues from one immoral activity to other but satisfaction is not achieved because they are looking for the right thing in the wrong place. everything they see is just their own fantasy and illusion.
Some mishaps in the past not handled in a correct manner, over sensitive people get too hurt due to failure in studies, bad company, bad selection of books, movies, ..........etc.
The solution could be vice versa of the above mentioned reasons. But the ultimate thing is guidance from Allah (s.w.t) which only comes when we seek it, otherwise it would take nights and nights of prayers of parents to bring a person on the right track. So prayers along with efforts (with wisdom) are the keys. I have seen people turning from almost a devil to saint due to sudden change of heart, of course such miracles only happen due to prayers and sincere efforts.
Also I know a family of 9 children in which 8 were going totally in the wrong direction, but one was so strong in character and sincere in his efforts that he pulled all his siblings towards the right path through words of wisdom and sincere prayers and at the same time presenting himself as a practical example through his deeds (and of course by the grace and blessings of Allah (s.w.t)
Allah knows BEST.