Are we women too fussy when it comes to finding someone and settling down? Do we not embrace the differences men have and their faults enough?
I know a couple of single ladies. And honestly, they’re great women, but when you hear WHY they’ve rejected rishtaas, you have to grab onto a chair to prevent from falling and hitting your head.
I guess, from the perspective of someone who has gotten ZERO rishtas, it amazes me girls toss out options out of the door so easily. I don’t know if this is a real phenomenon, or you’ve noticed it too.
A beard is a serious issue. It is more than just looks. It's also a level of religious compatibility. Guys who have these long beards for religious reasons also think in a religious way that is totally not compatible with how I see Islam. I don't want to marry a guy who places more importance on rituals than on his behavior and thoughts.
So, its not a superficial reason.
But when someone tells me they turned a family away because of nitpicky things, it really surprises me.
ex.
His nose is too big
He's not a doctor
He's not really muscular
His mom wore this or that
I don't like how his mom looks
He has a unibrow
Are we women too fussy when it comes to finding someone and settling down? Do we not embrace the differences men have and their faults enough?
I know a couple of single ladies. And honestly, they're great women, but when you hear WHY they've rejected rishtaas, you have to grab onto a chair to prevent from falling and hitting your head.
I guess, from the perspective of someone who has gotten ZERO rishtas, it amazes me girls toss out options out of the door so easily. I don't know if this is a real phenomenon, or you've noticed it too.
Is it ONLY the single girls who are picky? Guys can be picky as well....about looks and other aspects. But what about the mommies of the guys? Their expectations about a girl for their son can also be rigid? Height itni honi chahiye.......rang gora hona chahiye and if it's 0.5 shade darker, it's not good enough.....etc etc.
We can discuss this issue till the cows come home. Perhaps they already have....and we're still discussing it. People (guys/women) will have their preconceived notions about various things.......they'll have their expectations......and their opinions about everything (age, job, facial features, body weight, sense of humor, salary, family status, what have you).
Really? Wow. Most rishta meeting take place in the afternoon or evening…you’d think the prospective person would have brushed their teeth by then. It ain’t morning breath by that time. It’s either they didn’t brush away the salan…or it’s halitosis (now THAT can be an issue…can’t begrudge someone for being picky about that).
Oh no no. This was a chichora who dumped his wife and one of the few superficial reasons was : she doesn't have an attractive walk and her breath smells in the morning.
Oh no no. This was a chichora who dumped his wife and one of the few superficial reasons was : she doesn't have an attractive walk and her breath smells in the morning.
I kid you not.
Why don't people check for these things before they agree to a marriage. How hard is it to do a breath check? How hard is to observe how one walks? Sheesh!
Seriously talking, that reason is a good reason if you think of it. If you cant be physically attracted to someone, in fact you physically feel repulsive then its better to part your ways.
Pathetic part is not that the guy left his wife for that reason. To me, the pathetic part is telling others about this reason. That is low.
Seriously talking, that reason is a good reason if you think of it. If you cant be physically attracted to someone, in fact you physically feel repulsive then its better to part your ways.
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^ Agree. What's the point of being with someone whom you don't find attractive or who isn't attracted to you? If the imperfections, whether it's a big nose, crooked teeth, a deviated septum, an odious walk.......can't be overlooked.....it's better to look elsewhere.
