Not sure if anyone has seen anything like this, but someone put up a photo of their dead grand mother in her casket on facebook. An actual photo of her passed away grandmother laid to rest.
I thought this was extremely creepy and totally inappropriate.
I won’t upload the photo here but I will put up the link for any who are interested.
When did it become okay to put photos of deceased family members on facebook, as they are laying in their final resting place? I’ve seen funeral photos and stuff before but this is the first time that there’s an actual…body.
Well, one of my relatives have been doing this. I don’t know how to comment but it looks really inappropriate. It gives me very strange feeling, and I find it very unethical to post the picture of a person right before his journey to his final destination. To tell you the truth, I am against the concept of “Aakhri deedaar” . For those relatives who come to attend the funeral, there is no point of seeing the person FINALLY if they never saw him during his entire life. Maybe I am wrong but I don’t find any logic in it.
nahin aakhri deedar toh hona chaahiye cuz aakhir deedar isnt just for someone who has never seen the person in their entire life its a chance for someone close to the person to see them one last time before you can never see them again …but i think taking pictures and posting them is behurmati … thats in bad taste n rather disrespectful
Yeah it’s quite inappropriate. Even if you want to share it with some relatives who couldn’t make it to the funeral or whatever, just show it to them and not the whole of facebook.
I was pointing at those relatives who have no direct relation or close relation with that person or who never ever bother to meet the person in his entire life and if they don’t get the chance to come at funeral or get late then they make a big issue out of this *“chehra to dekhnay detay, intazaar ker laitay thorra” *How come that CHEHRA becomes so important for them that they just can’t control their frustration just because they have missed the rasm (Tradition) of “Aakhri Deedaar” .
Our extended family has done this. Since most of our family is all around the world, not everyone has been able to make it to funerals that were held in one specific place.
So, everytime, someone’s taken pictures and limited the access to just family.
I don’t understand this. I personally would never do this. But at the same time, I won’t pass judgments on another person for doing so. They may have their own reasons for posting the pic, and this may even be a way for them to grieve their loss. Either way, its a personal thing and the ONLY time I would ever interfere in something like this is if the deceased person happened to be one of my parents, husband, siblings, or future kids.
P.S. A cousin of mine died several years ago and even now, during her bday and anniversary of her death, people (including some of my other cousins) post messages on her FB page. A young co-worker of mine died suddenly a few months ago and people left TONS of messages for her on her FB page days after the death/funeral. Just like the picture, I also don’t get the reason behind leaving messages on a deceased person’s FB page, would never do it on my own…but don’t judge others for doing so. I assume this helps them deal with the emotions they’re feelings at the loss of a loved one.
I find it very inappropriate when people post photos of dead in casket or when the dead are being laid to rest. When Moin Akhtar passed away, people made videos of him being laid to rest. Very inappropriate…please give the dead some respect!
as most people have said, it’s extremely inappropriate both from worldly and religious point of views. as llxxll said it amounts to “be-hurmatii” [disrespect] of the maiyat.
I think we should keep in mind that taking pictures of the person who has passed and photos of the funeral/ burial/ wake/ memorial/ etc are two different things.
I don’t think being addicted to FB has much to do with wanting to share something with the rest of the family, as long as it’s just family.
In my family this would not be allowed under any circumstances, however, I’ve been to funerals in which family members have filmed the casket, and the people attending because their other family members were in different states and not able to make it…but just watching a movie like that would give me an uncomfortable feeling, it’s unsettling but I’m guessing it gives people closure.
In my community here in India, it is mandatory(people try) for people to make it to the funerals. Hence few pictures are taken for posterity. I was recently going through the photos taken during my grandpa’s funeral. I felt very emotional looking at these photos. Lot of people whom I could never interact/meet later were there in the pictures.
