It was a bit tough to understand your post. But I think maybe you should try to talk to this woman directly. Is she a boss of yours? If she is a boss of yours....talk to her about your concerns. Take your notebook with you and write down the areas that she wants you to improve on. And write down the date. That way you'll have a tangible record ....sort of like evidence in case she tries to play games in the future.
If you have any questions about procedures at work...EMAIL her.......and when she emails you a response.......save that response. That way...if she tries to hurt you.....you have her email as proof and it can be used to against her.
Document, document, document. It's always good to have some written evidence that can refute a troublesome coworker's claims.
The other thing you can try is to sit down with your boss and tell him that you've been having some issues with this woman. And that you would like to have a meeting with the THREE of you (you, her, and the boss). That's another way to handle things.
You could try complaining to HR....but I don't know how effective it will be and there's a chance that it might make her more angry and vindictive.
Sorry, i didn’t mean boy but older men. Sorry, once again for my english. It isn’t good so putting words out of context of saying that i am … because of my englsih. I have a handicap:D and that’s my english. IT is **** that u don’t talk dutch/france/spanish. But u are right. It is wrong to consider a 28 years old as a boy girls don’t that like also.
( by the way i don’t need lesson of how to treat women ) That one girl on work in my lifetime and her behaviour, doesn’t mean that i am nuts with girls.
^I never said that you need a lesson in treating women or that you're "nuts" with girls. I did try to answer your question above...i hope it helps and provides some direction.
;) just let here ... she did argue with sta and now with me. she hase a bad day
I didn't have an argument with STA. I haven't had a bad day either, the problem lay with you, which is why you apologised. Argh....why are you getting me started again??
I will rise above it and let you assume whatever you wish. :)
Seriously it is just that one girl. I am a relax type and not a angry young men. But if disney princess can't contribute here and can't say anything usefull. Why she responds here and then after i did apologise twice, but she is going on and on.
if someone responds normal then i'll be as normal as it should be sazzie.
i am going to sleep. work tomorrow .........is the only girl i have problem with. But i got my answer read a few posts back.
Thnx a lot all. I heard things from girly man to that i can't go along with girls(some i think people who wants to be funny on a internet forum or just are self hijra's). My only question was that there was only 1 girl(out of 250 girls) that i got problem with and that's the assistent manager. No, i didn't do anything wrong and no it is not that i can't handle it.
IT was just that her behave towards me without reason was wrong and i was just wondering why and what could be the reason. My bad english in combination with some people who don't know who to react and always thing that they are right or funny didn't go as usual as it should be.
But on the other hands i did also got some good advices and serieus reactiions.
maybe she doesn't like your attitude to work. Maybe she thinks your are lazy.Could be anything. Maybe she doesn't like your face. Best to speak to her, first apologize, then say that you are happy at the job and want to do well, then ask her for her expectations of you and what advice she would give you to help you improve.
There are often people in life you don't get on with. You made a mistake at work as in getting more than 3 clients - its her job to tell you what is what, (as she is a senior colleague) but not scream it at you. I think you should have apologised via email again and keep your head down and try not to make the same mistake again. If you don't get on with someone at work, it cannot be helped. Not everyone in the world is going to like you. It simply doesn't work that way.
If she is bullying you/making your life hard at the workplace, confide in HR.
as they say:
"You can please some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some
of the time, but you can not please all of the people all of the time."
MY response was after reading the following. These are all signs of a very aggressive ,hostile , and angry with the whole world kind of a person. He has worked at that joint only for a few weeks and he wants to kill his co-worker who is not as friendly as others and as friendly as he expects her to be.
My advice is with all sincerity. I have seen things happening like what he described in his post iand I and some of my friend on my advice used my tactics and they tamed a hostile co-worker.
If he does not take my advice I have no problem with it. But the following response is disturbing from a person who is seeking advise as to how to deal with a hostile co-worker.
If i give her presents or go lunch with her. Is against my rules. I hate her now pretty much. Actually i do want to kill her ... i did severel times think to break here nose and every bone and go to home.
just let here … she did argue with sta and now with me. she hase a bad day