Re: Friendship
One of my closest childhood friend and I are frank with each other about such things. For example, sometimes when i call her up, she’ll say that she’s not in the mood to talk and is tired. I don’t mind. Because I understand that her life doesn’t revolve around me. And a good and sincere friend will understand that you have other obligations to fulfill and can’t spend every weekend with them.
Here is how I would handle the situation. If you are afraid that your friends will get mad, then communicate with them. Have a face-to-face talk with all of them at once…and tell them that you love hanging out with them, but unfortunately it’s hard for you to see them every weekend because of various commitments and that you hope they understand. This way you can see their facial expressions and hear what they have to say. And they will appreciate your honesty instead of having to guess why you never visit them and making assumptions that you don’t like them.
And although you can’t hang out with your friends every weekend…why not consider every other weekend. Or maybe decide to hang out with them outside of college at least 2 times a month. Set a limit for yourself and let your friends now how often you can see them. That way they will be prepared and won’t get hurt.
If it’s hard for you to see them outside of uni…then consider inviting them to your house once in a while instead. And if distance is an issue. You can arrange to meet them occasionally in more closer and convenient location. Also, you can make up for not meeting them by calling them and emailing as well.