So I have this friend we were pretty close. We were good friends and talked about everything. He used to deal with tons of problems and then we ended up not talking for a good 6 months just like that. I asked him via email and phone whats up where he’s been and not a reply. Then one day he came outta nowhere and apologized for it. I said alright forget about all that just remember i’m your friend and you can come to me when you need anything. Now this guy is pulling it off again.
ask him!!! maybe he has some trouble going on in his life which causes this break in his behavior?!?...its nice if you can talk to him and find out. If he is just somebody whose extreemly moody and talks to you only when he needs help than maybe he is not worth having as a friend.
I'm usually the level headed friend and I know he's been through a lot worse than I ever have. He also works 2 full time jobs, pays the rent and other expenses for his mother and sisters. So I can understand the stress and pain he carries on himself daily.
99% of the time I let him say whatever is on his mind no matter how much it might affect me. I don't retaliate nor do I instigate anything. But since i'm mortal and human, i'm prone to making mistakes myself. And that 1% of the time I might say or do something that's on my mind which gets on his nerves. He has to blow up on me like everything is my fault. He realizes he lets his anger out at the wrong times but continues to do so.
He's not the perfect friend, but i've accepted the fact that noone is perfect in this world a long time ago. But he has to realize I might be the best friend he's ever had, but i'm not perfect either.
If he is ONLY a friend than why u r so bothered about it ???
Because friends carry more meaning to me than you obviously.
I'm usually the level headed friend and I know he's been through a lot worse than I ever have. He also works 2 full time jobs, pays the rent and other expenses for his mother and sisters. So I can understand the stress and pain he carries on himself daily.
99% of the time I let him say whatever is on his mind no matter how much it might affect me. I don't retaliate nor do I instigate anything. But since i'm mortal and human, i'm prone to making mistakes myself. And that 1% of the time I might say or do something that's on my mind which gets on his nerves. He has to blow up on me like everything is my fault. He realizes he lets his anger out at the wrong times but continues to do so.
He's not the perfect friend, but i've accepted the fact that noone is perfect in this world a long time ago. But he has to realize I might be the best friend he's ever had, but i'm not perfect either.
Aww i understand what you mean :). I must say you have immense patience and are a very caring friend. The best thing would be to talk it out with him, let him know how you feel about his behavior at times. Tell him that you are there for him and understand that he has alot on his hands but at the same time you would like to feel that you are cared for too and not taken for granted.
Don't hold back your feelings and let him know. A person has only that much he/she can tolerate and its better that you discuss it with him before you start feeling not the same about your friend.
Good luck and it's nice to know that there are still people like you who are friends in the real sense :).
It means Call it a day and move on cos .. i was once exactly in the same sittuation and this dude was my mate for like 8 years but he turned out not to be a frend afterall ..
Since you are such a good friend then you should not care if he talks to you every day or talks to you whenever he chooses to do so. I would suggest leave him alone and wait till he has time and opportunity to talk to you.
I have friends to whom I talk after years but whenever we meet we start from where we left off years ago and it feels like we were together yesterday and have met again today. Our friendship never goes stale with the passage of years in between our visit, talk or chat.
I have friends to whom I talk after years but whenever we meet we start from where we left off years ago and it feels like we were together yesterday and have met again today. Our friendship never goes stale with the passage of years in between our visit, talk or chat.
I think that is different from what her situation is. The problem in her case is that the guy turns to her only when he in down or having some problem. IN such a case the other person is bound to feel used. Where as in your case its just that people get busy in life and dont get time to keep in touch everyday but whenever they do its pleasant because its not for any specific reason i suppose.
Muslim, what I mean is that don’t ask too many questions. If he is going through some rough time, then let those things be and offer your advice even if he is not telling you anything or willing to *ask *for advice. Don’t forget about him… keep communication channel open because situations that are stress and depression intensive could lead the person to take drastic measures, i.e., suicide, etc. So, do keep in touch but with measure.
Looks like he has a different defenition
of friendship than you. But then again he
may very well have a genuine excuse for
not being able to keep in touch.
Aww i understand what you mean :). I must say you have immense patience and are a very caring friend. The best thing would be to talk it out with him, let him know how you feel about his behavior at times. Tell him that you are there for him and understand that he has alot on his hands but at the same time you would like to feel that you are cared for too and not taken for granted.
Don't hold back your feelings and let him know. A person has only that much he/she can tolerate and its better that you discuss it with him before you start feeling not the same about your friend.
Good luck and it's nice to know that there are still people like you who are friends in the real sense :).
yeh i agree, the way u r handling this deserves alot of respect:)
Don’t judge people before u know them.