So I have this friend who was very sweet and nice when I met her at first. Over the years I have realized she’s kind of petty and backbites/gossips about everyone and complains about every thing in her life (including her in-laws and spouse)… she *****es about her other friends ALL the time, usually I just don’t say anything and ignore her comments/gossip but she’s seriously been getting on my nerves lately, especially since I got pregnant (its probably the hormones).
So around 3 weeks ago, she posted a status update on her FB which was obviously about me … saying how she’s disappointed in her friends blah blah (dont ask me how I know it was about me, I know it was, I has stood her up on a daawat as I couldn’t make it)… I kind of over-reacted and commented on that status and I was a bit rude. She deleted my comment.
She then replied to me in an email and I haven’t had time to check my email cuz of work, i just got free and read her email yesterday. She has said… that comment was not about you and now i know how much regard you have for me commenting in a public forum like that, and then she talks about how I never acknowledge her comments on FB (??? where did that even come from) and further said that she didn’t know why I was taking out my issues on her which obviously I had building up… I’m like hainnnn… whatttt!!!
Anyways, I haven’t replied back to her cuz i’m at a loss to what I should do, I’m never confrontational and am usually nice/polite with everyone, haven’t had issues like this before… but I’m just so sick of letting people walk all over me.
Should I just send a short apology email and stay away from her from now on or do I ignore her email and stay quiet, I definitely don’t want to reply back with another pissy email and set her off again. I meet this girl at every other party I’m invited to and we move in the same social circle, so I will definitely be seeing her soon probably. I know I definitely do not want to be close friends with her, just keep her at a distance… she’s definitely not someone I want to be close to.
I just want to handle this situation diplomatically.
I agree with both Shak and LP - while you don't owe her an apology - making an effort would go a long way to removing the blame from you. THe best thing to do is offer a non-apology. You're pregnant - use your hormones as an excuse to say that "others" have been getting on your nerves and that the others are petty backbiting gossipers.
After that keep your distance and try to limit your socializing to community events instead of one-on-one outings.
So I have this friend who was very sweet and nice when I met her at first. Over the years I have realized she's kind of petty and backbites/gossips about everyone and complains about every thing in her life (including her in-laws and spouse).... she *****es about her other friends ALL the time, usually I just don't say anything and ignore her comments/gossip but she's seriously been getting on my nerves lately, especially since I got pregnant (its probably the hormones).
So around 3 weeks ago, she posted a status update on her FB which was obviously about me .... saying how she's disappointed in her friends blah blah (dont ask me how I know it was about me, I know it was, I has stood her up on a daawat as I couldn't make it).... I kind of over-reacted and commented on that status and I was a bit rude. She deleted my comment.
She then replied to me in an email and I haven't had time to check my email cuz of work, i just got free and read her email yesterday. She has said.... that comment was not about you and now i know how much regard you have for me commenting in a public forum like that, and then she talks about how I never acknowledge her comments on FB (?!!? where did that even come from) and further said that she didn't know why I was taking out my issues on her which obviously I had building up... I'm like hainnnn... whatttt?!??!
Anyways, I haven't replied back to her cuz i'm at a loss to what I should do, I'm never confrontational and am usually nice/polite with everyone, haven't had issues like this before.... but I'm just so sick of letting people walk all over me.
Should I just send a short apology email and stay away from her from now on or do I ignore her email and stay quiet, I definitely don't want to reply back with another pissy email and set her off again. I meet this girl at every other party I'm invited to and we move in the same social circle, so I will definitely be seeing her soon probably.** I know I definitely do not want to be close friends with her, just keep her at a distance... she's definitely not someone I want to be close to.
I just want to handle this situation diplomatically.**
