See I have grown up knowing that parents are parents and friends are friends .. they are two different categories …
as a result, I was never really friends with my parents, would tell them only what they asked or things that I couldnt live without telling them :hinna:
But I have always wondered , those parents who have such friendly relationship with their kids… are they able to continue having that close relationship with kids as they grow up? do their kids eventually come to them for love advise/friends advise/ you know the usual teens stuff …
and are those parents able to influence the child in a better way … ?
My parents were like that too. Like I didn't share every single thing with them, and kept most things hidden. I did so many things which I regret now many could have possibly harmed me, and I wish I was close enough to my mom to be able to trust her. You can't trust your parents when you're a child unless you see them as a friend. I think it's best if parents act like their childs best friend, thats the best way to protect them.
Ummm.... our parents were like parents and REALLy strict parents when we all were small and in growing ages. Once we grew up, and they thought we are enough sensible, they become our best friends. My dad is quite strict Dad but he knows when and where his daughters needs a friend, where he should guide like a teacher and where a strict dad is necessary. He tells us that he doesnt share one relation with us i.e. a father's, but four relations, 1 A father 2 A teacher, 3 A friend and 4 an Elder brother (we do not have an elder bro). So we can talk to him about any issue in life, where we need his guidence and suggestion. Our discussions on topics goes for days.
One more thing I will like to share that our parents have BLIND trust on us (5 daughters). and all of us know it very well. maintaining this BLIND turst becomes very difficult sometimes :(
So I can understand where the case has been similar to mine , like strict parents that cant be seen as friends …
But Fairytale, say you have really friendly and trusting parents mashallah , how much would you share with them? would you talk to them about a guy you might be interested in?
