Friends or Frenemies?

[stardust86]

You’re right. I know I get taken advantage of cuz I’m too nice and generous. My parents always tell me, the world will eat me alive! I’m trying to change but it’s hard cuz I’ve always been like this.

Maybe with time… they will realize. I still have some hope…

I don’t want gift or present or anything like that from them. I just want them to be there with me. I don’t know… Maybe I’m asking for too much.

I’ve always understood them no matter what the situation is, or at least tried to understand and hear them out. I don’t know.. Blah. This sucks. I always somehow get the kick in the butt and all I did was try to be happy.

I’m just going to have to accept what life throws at me because it’s Gods will. He knows best.

@redvelvet

The only other possibility I can come up with is that perhaps your friends are being protective of you. Maybe they’re afraid of getting your hopes up…because they don’t want you to get too excited in case things don’t go well in the future. Kind of like…let’s say that you get nominated for something. And you want the prize. But your mom, who loves you very much, will encourage you…but she won’t get too fired up and overexcited because she doesn’t want you to get hurt in case you don’t win, or in case things turn out differently than you dream/imagine. Is that possible?

Also, when we act tooooooooooooooooooooo nice/generous to people…they take us for granted. Human nature. Some people get so used to your “giving”…that they only expect “getting” all the time. If you back off…and don’t lavish so much generous attention on them…they might snap out of it and realize that a relationship needs to have mutual consideration. ********* But keep in mind that there are people who are just not good at realizing these things.

**********And people have different ways of showing affection. Some show affection through material things like gifts. And others show it through spending time with you. How do you measure which is better?

^^^ If neither of the above are possibilities…then they don’t sound like good friends, sweetheart. When we’ve been with people for so long…we’re so used to them that we feel uncomfortable with the thought that they may not be good for us. So, you either maintain a distance from them. OR, if you still want to keep them in your life in spite of the fact that they don’t understand your feelings…then just accept how they are. Take the good with the bad.