How do you deal with friends of your good friends that you don’t get along with too well? Suppose there is someone you really don’t think much of, and because they are your good friend’s friend, does it make you keep a distance from your friend? Would this type of situation cause trust issues for you too?
Re: Friends of friends
usually friends of friends of friends all influence each other and are pretty vocal about their feelings towards people, they can spread stuff and ruin the image of others :forgetsmileycode:
group-think.
Re: Friends of friends
I guess what it comes down to is how much you value that friend.....
We are friends with a couple (couple A) that is friends with another couple (couple B). Although we don't have issues getting along with couple B, we don't particularly enjoy their company.....and we have some very strong issues with their parenting style. They have a young daughter that is out of control (i.e. very aggressive to the point that she hits and bites other children and adults).
While we have tried to have couple B join us at our gatherings, we have learned that it doesn't work well. We are on edge the whole time they are over and we've simply decided that it is just too much of a strain on our nerves to invite them. When we are all together wife B sticks to wife A and has little to share with the rest of the ladies. Husband B is very vocal when he has husband A's attention but almost ignores others unless he is addressed directly and point-blank.
It really is a chore to be in their company.
To answer your question.......do we keep a distance from couple A as a result? No. We continue to see them.
The only time it poses a problem is scheduling......when they are busy with couple B we work around it and I'm sure that couple B is forced to work around when we do not include them in some outing/event.
Does this create trust issues? Nah. I don't see how it would.
Re: Friends of friends
How do you deal with friends of your good friends that you don't get along with too well? Suppose there is someone you really don't think much of, and because they are your good friend's friend, does it make you keep a distance from your friend? Would this type of situation cause trust issues for you too?
If I meet up with them at said friends house,then I keep a distance.Bus salaam duwa and group convos.
Having said that,many of my friends are quite possessive about their friends and do not like others getting too friendly,to the point that the husband of a good family friend came round and actually said " abc(meaning his wife) ko bilkul yeh baat nahi pasand hai ke charmedone xyz se mileh"...FGS,like I'm always poaching her friends!!.
So,next time xyz invited me to a ladies lunch I accepted...:D.......where as before I had always refused