i wasn’t active on gs for a few weeks…lekin now i have to ask something for a friend of mine…she asked me lekin i couldn’t help her really so wnna ask ur upinion
okay now she is a really sweet gril…she got in touch with a boy…(yhrough myspace)
He left her a comment or a note…He is like very sweetto her…he hadn’t seen her pic for a few weeks…and he even didn’t asked for it… Afetr a few days notin to each other he asked her to ad himthrough msn…she said tht she’s not really into msn so he said it’s okay…but she decided to mail hem though hotmail…a week or 2 ago she decided to show her pic to him…u know wht he siad to her when she had shown him this…i really wouldn’t mind if u hadn’t shown ur pic for a few years…i really don’t care bout the outside only inside…Okay so she hadn’t gave him her mob number…and he also didn’t mind tht…lekin when he asked her…a week a go…us ne apna mobile number de dya he…and tht guy didn’t alled her…only sms…us larke ne kaha ke sirf agar tum kaho ghi(my friend) i’ll call only then us se pehle nahee…
so wht u think yeh larka eatebaar ke laiq he?? or not??? Cauz he hasn’t missused her number should she go and see him if she’s ready for it?? or shouldn’t she???
if they had knows eachother for like 2 yrs then yeh maybe with a friend…but not in few weeks…NONONONOOOOOOOOOOO…
sumjho lurkiyo…its wrong…u shudnt jump into things like that…i know the urge is there, the sleepless nights and all…but becareful please…b VERY carefull…
I believe not all guys are the same but still i would not advice your friend to go out with this guy at this stage. Tell her to take it slow and when she goes out on her first date with the guy she should take some1 with her. Fine, i understand he is acting like a responsible, sensible n nice guy but one never knows what lies behind all those nice things esp when it comes 2 net. I hope you understand what i am saying.
I speak from experience. Tell your friend not to meet him. Tell her to tell the guy that she is going to tell her parents about him and see what his reaction is. It is very clear that two people shouldnt be meeting like that (I dunno if they are muslim or not). But either way, its not safe at all. Unless she takes her mom or brother along.
Some guys know exactly what to tell a girl and then will use this to their advantage. I'm not saying he is one of them but its better to be safe.
And I speak from experience, which has taught me to abstain from such things/meetings.
Tell the parents, it is so much safer and better that way. And intentions can easily be seen when parents are involved.
Whether she takes this advice is her deicison. What is important is that you advise her the correct thing.
u know wht it is aashi…when i spoke to her bout this all she said like…i don’t know wht to do…he is the first boy who is really "gentle"and when i said may be it’s a trick she ws like noo cauz he has told her the truth..lekin yeah i don’t get the oint..how can she say tht wht he’s sayin is the truth…i also told her to be carefulll
U know wht the thing is…she says tht he doesn’t want anything yet…he’s telling her not to rush etc…us ne to kissi rishte ke bare mein abhi us se kuch kaha nahee hey…lik ebf gf or some thing…he’stalking just normal to her…and he told her by him self to bring a friend with er when they will meet or the first time…and she told him tht she has really stickt parent and strickt brothers…he was like we aren’t doin some thing wrong and we won’t do it …i thing she personally doesn’t exept much of thiis…may be it’s just a kind of time pas???..btw she is pakistani and he too…and btw he doesn’t give her any hope forthe future…and she neither…so wht u guys think now???
i mean when she told me tht he said to take a friend along for the first meeting i was shocked i mean commonnn a boy askes a girl not to come alone is really rare…lekin yeah it can be a game…confusionnnn wht to say wht to thinkkkk
i really dot get all these relationships over the net , they are never real as ppl r just out there to get into sumfin , have a little fun . how can u love someone that u have only talked through a IM screen ??? its stupid in my opnion and NO she shudnt meet him yeah he will be nice or wotever bt its just all too fake
in contrast to all here, i would say meet the guy, see it yourself and observe he is what he portrays? sometime meeting someone is quite opposite to what you feel without meeting them.
by looking at the post guy is saying what girls assume very high and gentle way and that may not be the whole story what if he only say things cause know too much about girls and know they like that attitude! :)
in all this your friend is falling for his attitude cause he is not asking for date, not asking for pic not asking for number first etc, cause he know thats regarded well on the otherside and that will all come if he waits and play right.
i would say dont meet him
ppl online appear to be different then in real life..cyber world is really a mean mean world..haha and i am talkin from experience too
how old is she? and how old is he? do they both live in pak? unless she knowz someone tht know the guy personally..i dont think it is safe for her to trust just anyone like tht..and in what sense do u mean trust ke laeq hai ya nahi?
in contrast to all here, i would say meet the guy, see it yourself and observe he is what he portrays? sometime meeting someone is quite opposite to what you feel without meeting them.
by looking at the post guy is saying what girls assume very high and gentle way and that may not be the whole story what if he only say things cause know too much about girls and know they like that attitude! :)
in all this your friend is falling for his attitude cause he is not asking for date, not asking for pic not asking for number first etc, cause he know thats regarded well on the otherside and that will all come if he waits and play right.
Hmm i spoke to my friend and u know wht she said....during ramzaan he mailed her every day after sehri in morning...he sends smses before sleeping and whenever he wakes up...she even spoke him trough the fone...but ur right he's playin it damn good...but if a guy mails u at 05.30 am and sms u at 00.30 or so then it makes u think right??/
I also asked her wht she really wants...she doesn't know may be just friends cauz both of them are busy with study and want to stay friends and not more...
i would say dont meet him
ppl online appear to be different then in real life..cyber world is really a mean mean world..haha and i am talkin from experience too
how old is she? and how old is he? do they both live in pak? unless she knowz someone tht know the guy personally..i dont think it is safe for her to trust just anyone like tht..and in what sense do u mean trust ke laeq hai ya nahi?
they don't want a date yet...both of them live in Holland... my friend is 19 tht guy is 21 orso...there are no promisses made from each side...they are reacting just as normal friends...no flirt orso
Have you guys never seen the show "How to catch a predator". I'm sure there's an episode or 2 on youtube.
whts tht?? can u post a link?? maybe tht will scare er off?
wht the prob with me is tht i can't hurt her if u guys know wht i mean...she is really really sweet and i dunno how to react...she talks really sweet bout him but without any hopes for future...it's just tht they are gettin to know each other better and better....and he's putting efford in it...believe me when he send her mails then it's not a line or wht there are really 12 pages full!!!!!! and tht in morning after or before fajr or after isha.....
so wht to tell her now...don't pay attention to him??
If the guy is god fearing and religous, then she shoud consider it - since he wouldn't do anything 2 hurt her for the sake of Allah- then she should go and meet him, becaus iv done it myself and it's worked out fine! :) hehehe
itni thori baat say nahin pata chalta kisi ka
