my friend’s mom is bugging the hell outta me. she wants me to convince my friend to get married. everytime i see the mom she is always asking me whether my friend likes anyone, or if shes interested, etc. basically she wants me to convince my friend to get married or help her to do so. my friend is 23 and she has been in a relationship with a guy for abt 2 yrs. but she does not want to get married. actually its the guy’s fault. he’s not a player type but he just doesnt wanna get into any of that. i mean wtf! ok u are desi, u can;t possibly expect ur parents not to get u married. they’re both a pain in the ass for me. i am stuck in the middle i dont kno if i shud tell the mom that my friend is already seeing someone. or shud i tell my friend to marry him (impossible) or juz break it off. her mom is def getting her married within the next year. i dont want her to end up with a stranger but then again her and the bf dont wanna tie the knots! ahh i dont kno wut to do! this is annoying.
my friend's mom is bugging the hell outta me. she wants me to convince my friend to get married. everytime i see the mom she is always asking me whether my friend likes anyone, or if shes interested, etc. basically she wants me to convince my friend to get married or help her to do so. my friend is 23 and she has been in a relationship with a guy for abt 2 yrs. but she does not want to get married. actually its the guy's fault. he's not a player type but he just doesnt wanna get into any of that. i mean wtf! ok u are desi, u can;t possibly expect ur parents not to get u married. they're both a pain in the ass for me. i am stuck in the middle i dont kno if i shud tell the mom that my friend is already seeing someone. or shud i tell my friend to marry him (impossible) or juz break it off. her mom is def getting her married within the next year. i dont want her to end up with a stranger but then again her and the bf dont wanna tie the knots! ahh i dont kno wut to do! this is annoying.
opinions?
advice?
anything?
ummm its really not ur responsibliity what happens to ur friend.. shes 23, shes not 13, if she marries a stranger, well that's her fault.. u have no responsibility toawrsd it whatsoever.. just mind ur own business, avoid hte aunty as much as possible, if she persists, just tell her to ask her own daughter abt her life...watever ur friend does with her life, thats' her choice/business...
I don't think you should tell her mother about her boyfriend. Just tell her mother that you can't convince her but that maybe she should speak to her daughter about it and see why she's hesitating. Tell your friend that her mother is on your case and to improve her communication with her mother so she doesn't go around harrassing her friends.
Tell your firend that her mum is bugging you...advise your friend with what you see fit...dont be her mums messenger...
Shes a big girl and she can make her own decisions...
Whatever you do dont tell her mum about the boyfriend...thats betraying your friends trust...this is a matter between the two of them dont interfere...
Yes please stay out of this matter because if anything goes wrong the mother and the daughter wont blame each other but you...if because of all this her bf leaves her or anything else happens then you would be the one chosen to hang till death...
waisay your friend should understand that if the guy is not willing to get into any kind of commitment even at this age then he is probably not interested in her to stay with her all his life even if he is not a player...such guys actually can't inform their parents about their affairs or go against their parents wishes and marry their girls or even force their parents to accept the girl...i have seen many issues like these...
i probably wouldn't get involved, and i wouldn't tell her mom about her boyfriends (why betray a friends trust). Just tell her mom that you don't really fell comfortable discussing your friends personal life without her there.
say i talked to her but shes not listening.wat else can i do?or say its ur family matter i don't wanna get involved
DITTO...EXACTLY! its not ur problem, i wouldnt tell on my freind, but i would explain to her that her mom is saying all this stuff to you and that she needs to tell her mom to stop and stop involving you....this is def someting you FREIND needs to deal with, her mom doenst have a clue whats goin on so its not really her fault, id deal with your freind and say its too stressful for u and u cant do anything abuot it
thanks u guys! im juz avoiding her. i've told the auntie this is non of my business. she doesnt seem to understand but i'll try to put up with the bull****. hopefully it'll die out soon. and yeah i told my friend. she said she'll talk to her mom. shes thinking that the mom's going around bugging all our friends abt this. now shes afraid of what if one of her other friends spits out the bf thing =/ i feel bad for her. but damn that auntie is wackoo!