I met up with an extremely close friend im calling her Zara (thats not her real name) yesterday after a longg time and she revealed to me a small fall out amongst her and another girl in my group- Clara
A little background- we are 4 very very close friends we, when we get together we always have a brilliant time. Zara is mA a very beautiful girl and has an infectious personality she is also one of the top students. She is very desirable with her middle eastern looks and gets lots of attention from men however she is currently in a long term relationship with a guy who she hopes to marry and she is more humble when it comes to her beauty. Clara is also mA a very beautiful girl with her persian looks she also gets alot of attention but she demands it and wants it and almost expects it.
Now a few months ago, Clara reveled to us all that she always had a crush on Zaras current boyfriend. NONE of us knew about this and it caused a little tension between clara and zara but all that was put aside and it all peachy.
Me and another girl from our group got very busy with school work so zara and clara took a holiday together to europe. Clara went 2-3 days earlier to meet another group of friends and zara would join her later.
When zara went over to join clara in europe there was a man who clara had her eye on and this man and clara spent alot of time flirting but as soon as zara arrived this man said to clara or your friend zara is very beautiful and the attention shifted to zara.
Apprently as soon as he said that…clara went a bit crazy and told zara that she is slutty should have some respect that shes a bad person always stealing her friends men etc etc.
Im just really shocked a man can come between two such good friends. Its caused slightly unusual dynamics in our group now.
I always thought friends come before men? I cant believe this has happened in my group of friends!
This also got me thinking do girls eventually always have to chose?
^ Yup. You can't choose family, you can and do choose friends. You can't disown family, but you have no obligations to be friends forever. Who says you cannot disagree with friends (or anyone else for that matter)?
Before marriage, the choice between a friend and an outsider depends on who you agree with the most. After marriage, the man does come before friends.
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It should be pretty basic, that friends come before men. But sadly it isn't so, in fact it is very seldom so if at all. I've seen this amongst friends of mine as well!
And girls invariably have to choose. Which can lead to another spinoff and another thread, where the SO makes the person choose between themselves and friends they dont think well of, regardless of the duration of the friendship or the level with their partner
Clara is clearly so insecure and juvenile, so Zara is not to blame here (IF that is how the story really went), Zara and you both need to realize Clara is naive and extremely childish. The man came between Clara and Zara, Zara did not come between Clara & the man b/c Zara did not ASK for his attention and if Clara was a good friend, she would have realized Zara had nothing to do with this. Plus, who the heck would go and tell the girl that she has a crush on HER boyfriend? Clara seriously needs to be booted, I could never be friends with someone who was that insecure and lacked qualities of being a sincere and genuine friend. Avoid such people, they are nothing but drama.
It's nothing more then girls getting jealous and hung over little petty issues. These things happen with friends, sometimes it'll break a friendship and other time it'll just blow over. However, you can still maintain a friendship with both girls on your own terms
As mentioned already, bros before hos. Bro Code 101.
I mean, I’m mashallah a very good looking person with my Ugandan looks but I would never let a girl take priority over my friend (a very attractive Yemeni btw).
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