I’ve always known that I couldnt count on my friends if I needed them. I have has my times where I needed them but they were never there.
But I always thought that for my wedding at least they wud show they are my friends. But I am so disappointed!My 2 socalled best friends have really dissapointed me and ppl I didnt consider so close have really surprised me positively.
One best friend has declined invitation for all the parties cuz she is abroad and cant make it. Until now she has behaved very very bad tamezz…saying *****y stuff to me and showing great signs of jealousy comparing everything with her life and so on. She didnt call and congratulate me properly..just the whole behaviour has been odd…
Another one declined the invitation for my walima cuz her dad didnt allow her to travel outside the country for that!!and she has JUST returned from a weekend trip with her friends and she was outside country this time and has been prevously before.
Yet another friend declined my invitation for walima cuz she has planned a trip with some of her friends to some other country and dont wanna piss off her parents by also travelling for my walima.
I am not the kind of person with many many friends. so I have just relied on a few friends and slowly I am realizing that all those i have seen as friends actually dont prioritize themselves much higher than I wud have done if it was their wedding.
That's so sad. It's at times of happiness and grief that you know who your real friends are. Around the time of my wedding I also found out who my true friends were.
Unfortunetly ppl do end up getting very jealous. 1 of my best friends turned a bit crazy when i got married and refused to take part in any of the fun and every1 said it was cos she was jealous. Its been nearly 3 and half yrs since i got married and we have totally grown apart now. It really showed me who my real friends were and id known her since i was 3.
and the worst part is that they act to sugar kind after they decline ur invitations totally ignoring how i am feeling...and after a while they dissappear and i dont hear a word from them..
me too. Sorry chameli. Okay just for that i’m going to give her my two cents.
And i’m not afridi
Chameli, immediately after I got married, i lost a lot of friends. I tried my best to keep in contact with them but they didn’t seem to want to talk. If I did get a hold of them, the general feeling I got from them was that they felt a. i had messed up my life, b. i didn’t know what i was doing, c. wait a few years and see what happens to this marriage.
You’re getting married. This is a happy occassion and I wish you guys a lifetime and more of love and happiness InshaAllah. Don’t let friends who were obviously not your friends to begin with get you down. If they were anything like mine, they will see you as a different species after you get married anyway. On the plus side, you know which ones are real. . . these are the ones who still stick around, the ones who understand that you are married and don’t compete with your husband for your attention.
On the other side, maybe they genuinely can’t make it? I had a friend have a wedding in california that I would have loved to be able to go to but circumstances just didn’t permit it at the moment. Doesn’t mean i wasn’t happy for her or that i love her any less. . .
Only you can decide which ones are sincere and which ones aren’t. the ones that aren’t. . . its better they get weeded out anyway.
