Re: Friends and their reputation
You should move away from your friend. Atleast physically stop all contact. Now I’m going to relate a story. My friend whom i knew since 6th grade. He came from a very respectable and religious family. His parents were so religious and pious that they didn’t even have TV in thier house. He had memoriez 11 Quranic chapters by heart. He was those typical pious muslim kids in High School and never dated never once looked up at a girl. I remember him looking down even if a girl came and talked with him. We started college but he went to a different one.
He started to take some liberal art classes and some weird professors instilled a sort of Athiestic tendiences in him. He became a staunch Athiest and started drinking partying smoking weed and taking drugs clubbing and all sort of increadibly henious sexual acts with various women. And he would argue with me for hours on the existance of God and i would defend my faith. I wanted our friendship to stay so i kept hanging out with him ignoring his “Bad” habbits. Bad at this point would be an understatment. The habbits were crossing the threashold of sanity.
One day he convinced a friend of ours that we should go out to eat something. We did but along the way he convinced our other firiend that we should drink. I obviously said I wont drink and he tried to force me to drink it. When i refused he became angry and started calling me a “religious ******” which made me angry and I almost hit him but i held myself back since i still respected him as a friend. He got the Alcohol and sat in the car then “ordered” me to mix soda and alcohol because i was sitting in the back seat. I refused and he got angry at me again. At this time we had a confrontation at which point i decided to leave the car. I’ve never spoken to him since.
The point of this story is that people like this have given up all moral values and integrity in the name of “Fun” they think that by them having “Fun” constitutes to doing whatever they feel they should do and feel no remorse afterwards. I learned the hard way the true nature of people like these. He insulted me because I went against his beliefs and “refused” to do what he felt was “Fun”. So here is the thing. You will try to tell his girl what is wrong what is right but there will come a point where she will reject your advise and follow her vain desires. You can never change people like that. People like these just mend a little when they get old. But at this age forget about it. I would suggest that you stay away from this person, so that in the future you don’t go through what i went through. Hope this would help.
Thanks for the sharing. You did right to stop contact with the friend, especially since he told you to consume alcohol and questioned your faith. Yup, same case for my friend. Except, she does believe in Islam and God, just doesnt follow. I guess as we grow older, I may have to stop most contact as her character and attitude will not reflect good on me.
It’s not that i am just concerned about myself, i am concerned for her too. i have told her time and again to not engage in such deeds but she doesnt listen , so right now i just lend a listening ear, know what she does but dont stop her anymore.
