I have become friends with a really nice person. She is caring, fun to be with and w share many interests and values. But the thing is that she can be really annoying sometimes overloading me with her tiniest worries and stressing me out big time.
Even her husband has told her that he gets stressed out due to her spontanous behaviour. And whenever she has told me what he said I told her that I agree with him cuz she also stresses me out.
I havent been in touch with her for a while due to travel etc and realized how much peace of mind I had cuz she was out of town and not calling me daily and telling me tiny details from her work, in-laws, job search etc.
I know that being a good friend u do share such stuff and u do help each other when in need and thats exactly what I have done so far. its just that I lack energy myself and the little I got goes on her phone calls, text messages etc.
She even contacts me with her problems when I am on holidays so on my recent holidays I told her before leaving that I wont be answering text messages. When I returned she seemed much more mature and admitted that it had helped her to stand on her feet by not being in touch with me and she hasnt much contact with others anyways.
She married outside her caste so her family doesnt see her much and since I dont have family living in this country the two of us seems to consider each other family.
What I need advice on from u guys is how I can remain a good friend with her and still have a healthy distance in our friendship. She calls me daily and even if I dont return the call she would still call back and ask how I am doing.
I have helped her in her studies, job search and mentoring her a lot. I myself am in a job search phase now and feel a bit overloaded to guide her so detailed when she has access to useful resources around her.