my friend is looking for a match and he don’t have much family background, his mother is divorced and have no relatives who supports his family they struggled a lot to come to this stage, no property or assets other then his job
I thought of helping him and i came to know from my relatives that they are looking for a match for their daughter and i told them about this match and convinced them abt his family back ground and i said that he is very caring and good guy, and they said OK as they have lot of trust on me
my relatives are well known family in my town and rich too
now my friend has rejected saying he didn’t like the girl,
I can not comment on this as it is one’s wish to establish a relationship with someone depends on their likes and dislikes
but i’m feeling very annoying in front of my relatives though they didn’t felt bad
the girl is not ugly , and he don’t look like even half in abhishek to get aishwarya rai,
my relatives didn’t felt bad abt this and they are talking to me as normal as they were before
but i didn’t call him from longtime, i’m thinking that he might be thinking bad that i’m not calling him as he rejected that proposal, not feeling like calling him
I would like to ask that did he ask you for help in finding a rishta to begin with? The other thing is knowing the nature of our culture…it really puts the middle people(the rishta facilitators) in akind of weird position not that I am saying that it is a sawab wala kaam but I am also saying that it should be dealt with a lot of nuetrality. The middle people should have some boundaries that should laid out in the beginning so that they do not get rolled into the inevitable stuff that happens later on too..if the rista is successful(like being blamed when things go wrong in the midst of a larai between husband and wife:cb:)
So saying that you should not give"guarantees" as to speak which are considered like a norm when rishtaas are being set in our culture and to refrain from more involvement other then just introduction and some positive feedback…rest is and should be upto the people involved.
And concerning your family , I would suggest that you talk to them directly about this and also to your friend…this would save both your family relations and a friend who it seems you care about deeply:)..Rest Allah knows what lies in hearts
U can't force someone to marry a specific girl.. it was his life and he made the decision no matter how ugly or how handsome he is.. And i think u not talking to him wasn't a good idea.. if u knew him or if he was ur friend then i don't think it was a proper reason to finish a friendship like this..
Rest is on u...
