Re: Friend Proposal
I think there two separate points to focus on:
- Would the family turn out too conservative for your friend's liking ?
As Chicken Biryani rightly mentioned, look for other signs about how has the family treated previous brides. Look for the way they dress, talk and the subtle signs which tell if they are way too conservative.
- Should your friend value a career more than this marriage ?
Now thats a toughie. I think Chicken Biryani has made a spot on point that being educated doesn't necessarily only mean that you have to make a great career, but also that your friend would prove to be a literate, understanding and a great mother.
@Afro-Sheen how is using your education and knowledge to bring up your children as great people a waste of education. I maybe a little out of line, but somehow working a *great *career at the expense of neglect of children is not an easy decision. Yes, there are women who work and manage their homes as well, but its really difficult especially in Pakistan. If your friend is abroad then perhaps she can take up a light job, but frankly the environment of offices in Pakistan is not THAT great for women.
In my honest opinion, the best thing for your friend is to do an istakhara. There is nothing like it and inshAllah your friend will get an idea of what to expect.