I’ve got this friend who’s been going out with this girl for some time. So far he’s not enjoyed the relationship one bit. All he’s got so far has been ridicule from the girl. When they got together, the girl told him she loved him, but now she’s backtracking, she also doesn’t like spending time with him. My friend likes her but he’s worried that this girl may cheat on him. She’s very manipulative and, having met her myself, I thought she was a rather shallow person.. absolutely no genuine emotion in her..i advised my friend to dump her… what do u think?
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I agree with u
dump her before getting dumped
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I agree with you, they should call it off.
in a relationship both parties should enjoy each other's company.
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why is it ok for a guy to be shallow(jerk,isiot) but not for a girl.
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cause men rules the world , so they are imposing their rules...
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maybe there is something missing in guy's attitude..
it is different from wat it was before or the girl is uneasy at it.
this does not necessarily mean she will dump him.
he should talk over with her for her changed attitude towards him.
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why did he go out with this girl in the first place knowing how she was?
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I think you can't decide for ur friend to dump his girlfriend.
But if he sees his self what kinda girl she is he will let her go
him self i guess.
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the guy should pay his dues, score the home run and then let go.
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dump the biatch. :k:
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He should definitely communicate all this to her point blank. Then see what she has to say about her behavior, listen to what she thinks of him, and then make a smart decision based on that.
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this girl is unique. she probably represents no more than 0.1 % of the female species.
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- He’s not enjoying the relationship.
- She ridicules him.
- She’s backtracking on how she feels.
- She doesn’t like spending time with him.
- He’s scared she will cheat on him.
- She’s manipulative.
So let’s just clarify. Is this what HE is saying or your understanding of their relationship? How does he feel about the girl? Any emotions there? Any love?
If he doesn’t have any feelings for her and doesn’t see this relationship going anywhere, then he should ask himself if wants to work things out or build a future with her. If not, then he should end it cause it sounds like she will end it herself sooner or later since neither of them sound happy. One should never stay in an unhappy relationship just for the sake of it.
Also, I hope you disregard the advice about encouraging him to sleep with her before dumping her. 
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i think he should dump her asap....respest is the first thing in any relationship and if she doesnt respect him....he shouldnt be wasting his time on her.
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What an idiot, when he doesnt like her, why is he with her? Oh hes trying to be nice isnt he
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I've been relaying some of the nuggets of wisdom you lot have given to my friend, and he's told me a bit more about his relationship. I've seen the girl myself and she's quite flirtatious.
Before they got together, the girl used to flirt quite a lot with my friend. She would come up to him and give him a hug, always sit next to him in classes (she's in the same group as him), etc. Once literally tried to jump on top of him when he was sitting down on a couch in the canteen. This annoyed my friend a little since he felt embarrassed. When he ignored the girl for a little while, she came back to him and said things like "please abuse me" "why aren't you showing me affection".. my friend kind of took pity on her and told her he "loved" her and they got together. but once this happened, the girl started changing.. it's like she's an attention hoe!
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he tried to talk it thru with her, but she's very diplomatic and knows how to twist language for any purpose.
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she is 100% he … i guess 
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he’s one of those people who always seem to act against their better judgment.