To each his own, in my personal opinion I will NOT approve of my husband being friends with females because I believe there is a very fine line between friendship and it turning into infatuation between opposite genders. I can guarantee about myself, that I will never cross the borders, but who knows when and if my husband does. Alright here a question might rise whether I dont trust my husband, WELL, I DO, but obviously I dont trust SHAITAN who is always between two na mehrams, when they are alone. So why to open an Pandora box?
Claiming to be broad minded and practical enough to have and let my husband also continue friendship with girls and ending up crying here over my husband's extra marital affair is the last ever thing on earth I would want.
As a guy who had female friends, I can tell no guy really gives a rats behind about girls if it messes with his real life.
By nature we are polite to girls, some girls out of their stupid needs tend to stick ...
Now in question is marriage and male friends... so that is pretty serious stuff.
Well its kinda an ugly start of relation if you ask me.
And also answer why never a guy came with this issue ???
To each his own, in my personal opinion I will NOT approve of my husband being friends with females because I believe there is a very fine line between friendship and it turning into infatuation between opposite genders. I can guarantee about myself, that I will never cross the borders, but who knows when and if my husband does. Alright here a question might rise whether I dont trust my husband, WELL, I DO, but obviously I dont trust SHAITAN who is always between two na mehrams, when they are alone. So why to open an Pandora box?
Claiming to be broad minded and practical enough to have and let my husband also continue friendship with girls and ending up crying here over my husband's extra marital affair is the last ever thing on earth I would want.
thats where trust comes in both sides need to know wat the limits are in there freindship whether there male freinds or girl freinds and keep it tht way so both parties r happy
thats where trust comes in both sides need to know wat the limits are in there freindship whether there male freinds or girl freinds and keep it tht way so both parties r happy
My last word on it would be, if you believe its something normal and natural, why did you have to come here in the very first place and open a thread on it? it pertains to your future husband only, and his word should be the final.
My approach would be while there is no harm in maintaining a casual acquaintance with friends of the opposite gender, there is a line that needs to be drawn. The way you socialize with those friends, the amount of time you spend with them, the context in which you spend that time with them and the personal information you share with them ALL changes once you are married. A friendship from before marriage will inevitably change after marriage.
Moreover, once you're married, your focus and priority becomes your partner - you cannot ignore their likes and dislikes. That's not to say that you should tolerate a suspicious attitude from your partner or allow him/her to control your life, but it's human nature to want to please the people we love and we make concessions for them - which may mean less time for friends from our past.
My last word on it would be, if you believe its something normal and natural, why did you have to come here in the very first place and open a thread on it? it pertains to your future husband only, and his word should be the final.
i opened this thread to find out what ppls veiws are about it it doesnt neccesery mean i having sum sort of problem every1 is entitled to there opinion wat u belive is wat u belive my fiancee trusts me i trust him we got tht special bond his freinds dont bother me and my freinds dont bother him,
My ex-girlfriend was kind of a person who didnt want me to maintain any friendship with female friends. Not that i have gave her any reason but she was very insecure generally.
With that said, i can't deal with belawaja jealous type of girl.
As far as me, well i would like to maintain friendship in respectful boundary after marriage. This is because you don't want to give your partner a reason to doubt on ya. Also, they are very good female friends and i like to have coffee with them often.
I don't understand why you need to completely dismiss a friendship. I think there should be some distance in male-female friendships, and unless necessary, I don't think you should seek to regularly spend time alone together, but why completely cut it off? And why only after marriage. What makes it okay before?
^ so she should be beware or more attractive friends than her, as per your criterion?
What i meant was that women have 2 types of male friends. one type is firmly placed in the friend zone. you can look at them, their demeanor and the way they interact and identify them. The other type is the one who are fwb and fling material. you can identify them too.
