What do you gals do a few months before getting married to stop you from freakin’ out?! I am so so so nervous, thinking about it! Its sooooo close, before i know it, i would have lost my weight, have my ass on a plane seat and ill be a married woman, living the married life! HELP! 
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I try not to think abt things that will make me nervous...like my wedding outfit, chooriyan, jewelry, etc.
I dnt want to think about all those things...Ill deal with them when I cross that bridge!
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just enjoy urself.. :)
do things u wont get time to do later.. like go out with ur friends. Just have lots of fun (not that u wont have any afterwards)
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i pretend lyk i have a wholllle lot of time and really dont plan much ahead of time. i kno it sounds stupid but im getting married in june i`A and i havent planed anything at all. other than my own clothes and jewlery and thts cause my sas did it i didnt she just asked me for the colors i want and how i want and i wasnt really all tht picky cause my sas has really good taste i just told her how i wanted a extremely traditional look for the wedding and very modern and thts exactly what she did. I wouldnt have expected her to do things as well as she did but shes awsome. even for my jewlery on the shaadi shes making the two necklace thing...i dont kno wht its called but its layered lyk a small one and then a bigger one she even asked if i wanted a matta pati but im sure those would look hideous on me.
relax... it only comes once in a lifetime. Its your day and whether things come out ur way or not. People will forget. the only thing that i would worry about is how you personally look. forget the little details and enjoy !!!
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I guess youre right - i am really focusing on trying to loose weight. You know those villiage paki types, especially females, critisizing everything about you and judging you and stuff. My mom in law is arranging everything, but unfortunatly me and her have completely different tastes and I guess thats what i am worried about. They are arranging everything - the clothes everything. I just dont wanna end up getting married in a dress that i dont like, but i guess you cannot go wrong with white, can you?
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Bunnyhoney, where are you moving to after you get married (you mention a plane)?
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Bunny, you're such a great DIL! It can be very difficult trusting someone to make sure your wedding clothes are nice. Inshallah, you will look beautiful! If you're wearing white, make sure your makeup is very bright and clean. Go online and find looks for yourself. Meaning, none of the multi-colored eyes or heavy blush. A flawless complexion is what you should focus on to pull off white beautifully, (Im sure you will look amazing though).
Stop stressing out, drink tons of water, start wearing high SPF sunscreen even if you dont like it, get facials done, eyebrows, etc. You've got to take care of YOU first.
And like Sadz said, enjoy this time. Call your friends have girls' nights out, spend time with your family, etc. Do things you might not be able to do later.
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yar pray nd then leave everything to God ... i too freak out sumtimes but then i think abt my fiance ... his love nd that he is waiting for the time when we'l be together .. that makes me happy again (:
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hey honey dont get stressed u gotta look good and fresh…spend time with ur family…you will always miss this time so try to enjoy it to the fullest…read this…
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Same I am feeling...
But Relaxxx! the day comes in your life just once, so dont get it ruined by the nervousness youw ould laught upon later!
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My flight is in 4 days :) and in less then a month, I'll be married :) Inshallah--- I still don't believe it, and it hasn't even hit me yet!
for example-- everyone going.. awww your gonna be married, how do you feel, and honestly I haven't even digested everything yet, im just chilling! It'll hit me when I have to go get ready and all.. I think then i'll be more like "OH ****T" (ive been engaged for 2 years and been with the guys for over 3 years, and Im still in shock) Or perhaps on the plane i'll have one of those moments! So bunny chill, Inshallah your wedding will be as perfect as you've imagined Inshallah :)
p.s I cant even imagine myself as a bride! (am I weird?) Im pretty sure i'll burst our laughing before my entrance or even while im walking!
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I meant guy SINGULARRR
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I only have 32 days left till my wedding and am feeling so nervous 2...sometimes i cant wait 4 the day 2 come and sometimes i feel really overwhelmed by all the change that will happen...its not easy leaving my family and going and living with someone else waking up one morning around different people..its scary but im just leaving everything 2 Allah.
im just worried about 1 thing when i get really emotional i cry alot and im worried i wont be able 2 stop crying on my wedding i dont wanna do that but i know myself...thing is i know im gonna miss my dad so much that day he passed away 2 years ago and its so hard 2 feel all this happiness without him..how can i stop myself crying alot that day??
I am not moving anywhere, I am travelling to Pakistan for my wedding, thats where it will be then i will be back to London and then possibly back to the US.
Bunnyhoney, where are you moving to after you get married (you mention a plane)?
Aaaahhh… thanks for the sweet comliment and advise 
I think youre right about the makeup, i havent even thought about that! I have so many things going on in my life, work, school etc etc… when i think about the wedding and get freaked out! Hahaha. I guess its all good. I heard that white makes you look fat! 
thats why I am concentrating on my weight for now. Better me do that then have others concentrating on my “love handles” during the wedding!
Im so sorry to hear about your father. I am sure your father will be proud of you (and he will!) he will be there inshallah through your thoughts, through other peoples thoughts. Without a doubt it will be emotional and I guess nothing can stop that. Just think of it as a happy event and it is a happy event - you are moving to a new stage in your life, where your father would want you to be happy. Inshallah you will be happy and just think of those happy times that lie ahead of you. Your father is within yourself and your family and he will always be there, maybe you cannot see him, he will always be there and crying will acknowledge him.
I only have 32 days left till my wedding and am feeling so nervous 2...sometimes i cant wait 4 the day 2 come and sometimes i feel really overwhelmed by all the change that will happen...its not easy leaving my family and going and living with someone else waking up one morning around different people..its scary but im just leaving everything 2 Allah. im just worried about 1 thing when i get really emotional i cry alot and im worried i wont be able 2 stop crying on my wedding i dont wanna do that but i know myself...thing is i know im gonna miss my dad so much that day he passed away 2 years ago and its so hard 2 feel all this happiness without him..how can i stop myself crying alot that day??
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I know what you mean. Even it hasnt sunk in with me that I am getting married. I am just getting on with my day to day life. Just last night me and my husband (to be!) were talking on the phone about money and want he wants to do in his life. He said he wanted to start a business and he wants me to help him. Conversations like this make me feel so so happy that I have someone in my life to share EVERYTHING with. I am his rock and he is mine. He was also quite upset about something yesterday on the phone and the thought that he cannot talk to anyone about this problem, apart from me makes me feel so needed and wanted and makes me realize how much of an effect I have on his life. When I think about this, then all the stuff about the wedding and the stress associated with it becomes obsolete. I realize that I dont want the stress, and I dont want anything else, i just want to be with him, wedding or no wedding. We have done Nikah and as far as I am concerned a wedding isnt ness. I just wanna be with him, simple as that.
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aww thats cute!!!
dont worry !!! and im sure if ur trying to loose weight worrying abuot it will make it worse.
Just eat little portions and drink lots of fluids. Thats exactly what im doing and ive lost 5 LBs from my engagment till now !!
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Thanks sweetie. Those small portions you eat.... what kinda foods do you eat? Mostly protein or carbs? Do you eat anything in between meals? What do you cut out completley? Congrats on the weight loss! Seems like you did well!
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when's the wedding bunny..?
wish u all the best, InshAllah everythin will b ok... im sure as the time will come u'll not even b worried about the dress and all.... there'll b more things on ur mind.
Hope everything will b good.. :)