Some people argue that ploygamy should not be allowed in Islam because you can’t treat more than one wife ‘justly’ or ‘equally’ as it is impossible…though this may appear to be the case and allah(SWT) knows best, my question is then why would it not be outrightly prohibited as is say alcohol or pork or zina?
While it is within the realm of possibility that you could love 4 wives equally, it doesn't hold true with the other three. We all have clear favourites.
My own preferences are as follows:
- Pork
- Sex
- Alcohol
Though your brillance and insight may be quite overwhelming, the question remains unanswered thanks.
Salaam alikum, difficult the question may seem, in essence it is not hard to answer it.When doing actions we should seek to see what the hukm shariah (islam) says and not what our mind precieves as haram and halal. With this in mind it can be answered (as all of questions should be answered).
Allah (swt) has allowed 4 wives but with certain conditions, and as long as those conditions are met, it is o.k. There is no mention of probhtion of polgmay so therefore it is halal. hope this clears up the issue.
[4.3] And if you fear that you cannot act equitably towards orphans, then marry such women as seem good to you, two and three and four; **but if you fear that you will not do justice (between them), then (marry) only one **or what your right hands possess; this is more proper, that you may not deviate from the right course.
and
[4.129] **And you have it not in your power to do justice between wives, even though you may wish (it), **but be not disinclined (from one) with total disinclination, so that you leave her as it were in suspense; and if you effect a reconciliation and guard (against evil), then surely Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.
Correct my error but isn't this stating that you can marry more than one if u do them all justice, then saying that you CAN NOT do justice to them inturn nullifying the ability of marrying more than one?
Iam a bit lost with ur question........if u qusetion is that can you marry more than 4 wives if you can treat them justly??? then the answer is yes.
ah, but would you be able to fulfill your conjugal duties justly, you stud you!?!?
I think there's some confusion as to the meaning of the word justice...
From what I have been taught, justice in this case means treating all wives fairly i.e spending and distributing wealth equally between each and spending an equal amount of time with each one...
Islam does expect you to love all of them equally, only that you are equitable in your relations with each...
Without being too harsh - I think a lot of people approach this subject with pre-conceived notions of what Islam 'should' be like, 'judging' Islam according to some criteria that they hold, when in fact it should be the opposite...
By this I mean that as soon as we know that something is from Islam - there should be no hesitancy in our hearts to accept it...
...we should strive to make our inclinations in line with whatever Allah(swt) has ordained for us...
Recognize the truth first, then, afterwards, you will be able to
recognize the people who adhere to the truth - saying of Ali (ra)
Yea Abdul hit the stop.....i think confusin lies in us understanding Justice from the western defintion whereas it should be the other way round (i.e the definition islam gave).
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Tere are many things in Islam that we did not understand, for example verses in Al-Qur'an that scinetists couldn't comprehend until 15-20 years ago! I'm sure you know many of them, but that gives us the insight that we don't need to know the wisdom of every thing t believe in it. Because we have the certainty that Islam Is True.
lust ki koi gungaish nahi hai islam main . islam ka maqsad aik say ziada shadioon say yeh hai kay , awrat ko protection chahiay , aap dekhain kay mard aal bhi dunia main awratoon say kam hain ,kioon kay kay unhain ziada khatrat ka samna karna parta hai , un ki zidagi zida risk par hoti hai , aap janti hi hain kay kiss tarha jang main hazaroon soliders qatal ho jataiy hain ..agar islam mard par sirf aik aurat ki shart rakhta to un awrtoon ki kafalat ka koi ehtemam na ho sakta , islam ain fitrat hai , yahan bat insaf walay moamlay say bhi aagai chali gai hai , i am sorry my english is not that strong , lakin agar koi sahib iss ibarat ko translate kar day to main uss ka manoon hoon ga , kioon kay english zida log samjh saktay hain , any way islam kay maqaaid bahot aala o arfa hain , aap zahar say islam ki khobioon ka andaza nahi lagga saktay ..
hazrat mohammad peace be upon him nai bhi aik say zida shadian kein lakin aap ko patta hona chahiay kay un main ziada tar tadad widows ki thi , aap ka yeh amal doosroon ko iss naik kam ki dawat deina tha …
isskay ilawa aik say zida shadi ki ijzat curuption kibekh kanni kay liay bhi bari zarroori thi …agar koi kor aqal issay aur ma’ani day to usski soch par matam hi kia jasakta hai. kioon kay wo samjhnai ki salahiat say mehroom hai , aur khuad usski zati soch aish o ishrat par mabni hai..
Why should this practice be prohibited, Islam doesnot allow us to make what halal is haram. I think if you can't handle four wives with justice, don't marry four. Islam doesn't force you to d marry four. I don't see any reason why the practice should be prohibited. God has allowed the practice and He knows the best. We don't have any right to make what is made halal by Him haram.
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It is not said anywhere to marry for wives for human pleasures...there are reasons for it..like if there is a widow in ur family who has no where to go and is poor u may marry her "WITH" the permission of your wife..
or if one fears that God forbid their family may end due to the wife not being capable of
producing off springs.
i agree with those above who say
u may marry more than one wife if u treat them justily...but that does not necessarily mean u luv them equally as much
Prophet(p.b.u.h) loved Hazrat Khadija(RA) more than any other wife and at an occasion told this to H.Aysha(R.A)...however he treated all his 10 wives in the same way.
First of all there is no need in Islam to ask for permission of your wife/wives before taking another for a wife. The problem with all of us is that we were born and raised under the Western influence where polygamy is ridiculed while sex without marriage is perfectly accepted. Women are involved in multiple relationships and themselves are not aware of the identity of their offspring's father.
Islam and I don't mean Islam after Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) practiced polygamy. Islam from the start of time has practiced this. Majority of the prophets had multiple wives. Prophet Muhammad on the command of Allah limited the number to 4. The whole idea is protection of the women and giving a father to the children. Whereas Islam does not recognize *******s the West accepts them with open arms. The saying of the Prophet(pbuh) staes, "A nation of illegimate children will be a nation of rage". Look around you at all the violance which is emerging from these children of rage and broken families. As far as treating your wives justly is concerned it has nothing to do with love. Justice means allocating the same resources to all. Allah will not judge on things that He has not given us in our nature i.e to love all equally. The list is long on the benefits of polygamy vs. what is being practiced today but the West and most of us are too blinded by the bias we grew up with to be able to decipher the truth.
Praise be to Allaah and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
It is OK for you to marry a second wife because Allaah says (interpretation of the
meaning):
"… then marry women of your choice, two or three, or four…" [al-Nisaa’
4:3]
- as long as you are going to treat them equally with regard to where you spend your nights and how much you spend on them. So if you spend one night with one, and the next night with the other, and spend on them
equally, there is nothing wrong at all with marrying a second wife.
And Allaah knows best.
Brothers and sisters, this is not my reply but the reply by a scholar named M. S. Al-Munajjid.
Here is what i think about it.
Polygamy reduces the possiblity of a man’s having illegal sex.
And treating multiple wives equally is not impossible. But love inside the heart can be different for one compared to the other wife but that heart is under the control of Allah. Most women dont prefer polygamy but some God fearing women do allow their husbands.
One more thing. Why dont u guys look for the answers from a scholar first and then try to give your opinions about so serious matters? Some people dont know what they are talking about so please be careful about what u say about islam. Visit this website for any of your queries. www.islam-qa.com
It has all the answers Inshallah with real evidences and the truth INshallah
I agree with the priciple that we cannot ban limited polygamy, because it is halaal, and no man has the authority to make what is halaal haraam. But maybe all that is neccessary is to educate yound muslims as to the Islamic restrictions and viewpoint on such polygamy, so we make sure that muslim men become completely aware of what their responsibilities and duties to their wives are. Thus we can ensure that those who marry more than 1 wife will conduct their marital matters in a way in concordance with Islam. Let those who feel they can marry more than 1 woman and still be good muslims and good husbands do so; and allow those who feel they cannot to avoid it.
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