foster parents needed for refugee kids from iraq, turkey somalia, iran, afghanistan

I was forwarded an email and thought I would share it with people here. Some of the members who themselves or their freinds or families were thinking of adopting may find this exceptionally helpful because it mau make the process much simpler. I can not vouch for the accuracy or validity of this item so please do your reseacrh.

so before you read the forwarded email msg, here is a summary

  1. many kids from muslims countries would be coming to Massacussets soon and would be coming here on an ongoing basis.

  2. if you become a foster parent, there are some stipend to help with the costs

  3. I am not sure if people outside of massachusets can take part in this, so you may want to investigate. call 617-960-7159 to find out more. post what you found here. I will make a call as wel to find more info.

many times we say oh we wish we could do something, but we are so far, and we have lives here, .. It appears Allah has given us an opportunity to take care of these kids who would otherwise just be lost.

From: “Najiba Akbar”

To: boston-net@…
Subject: [boston-net] Muslim Orphans in MA: Foster
Parents Needed
Date: Tue, 18 Jul 2006 13:02:55 -0400

Salaam alaykum wa rahmatallah wa barakatahu,

It is related by Sahl ibn Saad (R.A.) that the Prophet
Muhammad (PBUH) said :
“Whoever supports an orphan from among his own or any
other family, he will be as close to me in Heaven as
these fingers are close to each other.” Then the
Prophet (PBUH) made a motion of his index and middle
fingers and there was only a little space between the
two.

We all know how much our beloved religion exhorts us
to the care of orphans, but how many of us are truly
prepared to live out this value? This is a question we
all must ask ourselves at this moment, because of an
extraordinary situation that we have here in Boston.

MAS Freedom Foundation was recently made aware that
there are a large number of Muslim refugee children
that are being admitted into Massachusetts in the
coming months (and on an ongoing basis). Just in the
few months to follow, MA is expected to receive Muslim
orphans from Somalia, Liberia, Sudan, Iraq, Ethiopia,
Iran, Afghanistan, and Turkey. These children, who
have lost or been separated from their parents and
family, will be admitted into the custody of the
state, until adoptive parents or foster homes are
found for them.

A muslim sister, Ceylan Sargin, from the Office for
Refugees and Immigrants, has contacted us, asking for
our help in finding Muslim families who would be
willing to explore the possibility of becoming foster
parents for these children. The concept of fostering,
which is very close to the Islamic concept, involves
taking a child into your home and giving them the
love, care, and sustenance they need until they reach
the age of adulthood. The government supports foster
families by giving them training, as well as generous
monthly stipends ($500 each month and $300 every three
months) to cover the costs of the childs’ upbringing.

There is a tremendous need to Muslim families to come
forward to offer these children a home, and most
importantly, an Islamic upbringing. Without action on
our part, these children will most likely be sent to
non-Muslim homes or group homes, without access to an
Islamic support system. As individuals, and as a
community, we have a responsibility to sincerely ask
ourselves what we can do for these children.

MAS Freedom will be organizing a workshop for those
interested in exploring the process of becoming a
foster parent, or who just wish to learn more about
it. If you are interested in attending, or would like
more information on Foster Parenting, please email
najiba.akbar@… or call 617-960-7159. We would
like to faciliate this process, but we can only do
that if people come forward to learn more about this
issue.

Please keep these children in your duaas as well, and
please spread the word to other Muslim families in MA.

Jazakallah Khair,
Najiba

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If this option is available in 5 years, I will tkae it :)

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isn't adoption universally considered to be haram?

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^ no its not haram, only an idiot would tell you that it was. `

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correct me if i'm wrong, but i don't think that adopting is wrong. you are however, supposed to keep the child's original last name, and not change it to yours.

but wow fraudia, that's a really good thing. and you don't adopt these kids - you just become their foster parents. so what happens after they hit the age of maturity? do they continue to live with you, or move out?

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smilestar, as foster parenst you are really only responsible until they are 18.

you are also expected to keep teh childs last name, unless the name is knot known e.g. if you find some abandonded kid or infant after some natural disaster and there is no information available for that kid, what name would you use... I have spoken to several eligious authorities and the recommendation is 2 fold #1- if you dont have the information then any name could be used #2- biggest thing is that the child should know that he or she is adopted.

I have an adopted son and daughter so have dealt with teh shariah aspects of it as well e.g. not being mehrem when teh kids grow up, however there are loopholes there, also the issue with them not getting inheritance but there are workarounds for that as well.

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I spoke with najiba and she told me that 10 states are joining together to do this program. she will try and get me more info.

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yup - i've been reading your journal :D you've got valid points.. i think as long as your heart is pure, and your intention is good, everything else sorta falls into second place.

but i think it's really cool what you've done. so good for you :D

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From what I have read fostering is considered very virtuous.

But the reason adoption in the western sense is considered wrong is because the child loses his or her own identity and adopts the surname and identity of those who adopt him/her, an adopted child can be refferred to as a brother (in faith) of those who adopt him but not their son because his lineage goes back to his own mother and father.

I think Islam teaches the child should be given love, warmth, care and protection all the same but the childs own identity should not be taken away, and that's fostering, adoption is when the parents pretend the child is there's and give him or her their own surname.

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thank you so much for this info...i have 2 sisters that are very much interested in doing this.

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exactly...

there are 2 forms of adoption...1 is legal adoption (in the western sense) which is haram. Then there is the Shariah way of adopting.

Islamically the child has rights to his lineage and the biological parents have rights to their child. When one legally adopts those rights are taken away. When one raises a child according to shariah they do so by feeding them. clothing them, educating them, and loving them as their own WITHOUT attributing that child to himself (ie changing surname) nor does he give that child rights that are reserved for the natural children (ie inheritence).

"...Nor has He made your adopted sons your (biological) sons. **Such is (only) your (manner of) speech by your mouths. But Allah tells (you) the Truth, and He shows the (right) Way. Call them by (the names of) their fathers; that is juster in the sight of Allah. But if you know not their father's (names, call them) your brothers in faith, or your trustees. But there is no blame on you if you make a mistake therein. (What counts is) the intention of your hearts. And Allah is Oft-Returning, Most Merciful."
(Qur'an 33:4-5)

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some more info. still not a whole lot of details from anyone, but have received this info from another source so it does not appear t be a hoax. they provided contact info for ppl in diff states who can give you more details about it.

it appears thus far that its only for foster care as the goal is to try and reunite the kids with family ..

some other information I recieved is posted below

States Participating in the Unaccompanied Refugee Minor [URM] Program

ARIZONA

Mr. Charles Shipman
State Coordinator
Dept. of Economic Security
Community Services Administration
P.O. Box 6123 - Site Code 086Z
Phoenix, AZ 85005
Tel: 602/542-6611
Fax: 602/542-6400
E-mail: [email protected]

DISTRICT OF COLUMBIA

Ms. Darlene Herring
State Refugee Coordinator
Office of Refugee Resettlement
Department of Human Services
2146 24th Place, N.E.
Washington, DC 20024
Tel: 202/541-3949
Fax: 202/529-4365
E-mail: [email protected]

Ms. Genet Derebe, URM Program Manager
Tel: 202/541-3949
Fax: 202/529-4365
E-mail: [email protected]

MASSACHUSETTS

Ms. Juliette Nguyen
State Refugee Coordinator
Office for Refugees and Immigrants
18 Tremont Street, Suite 600
Boston, MA 02108
Tel: 617/727-8190
Fax: 617/727-7888
E-mail: [email protected]

MICHIGAN

Mr. Rob Cecil
State Refugee Coordinator
Director Office of Adult Services
Michigan Family Independence Agency
235 S. Grand Avenue, Suite 501
P.O. Box 30037
Lansing, MI 48909
Tel: 517/373-7383
Fax: 517/241-7943
E-mail: [email protected]

Mr. Al Horn, URM Program Manager
Tel: 517/241-7819
Fax: 517/241-7826
E-mail: [email protected]

MISSISSIPPI

Ms. Pearl Holloway
State Refugee Coordinator
Department of Human Services
Family and Children's Services
P.O. Box 352
Jackson, MS 39202
Tel: 601/359-4983
Fax: 601/359-4978
E-mail: [email protected]
(Attn: Pearl Holloway)

NEW JERSEY

Ms. Audrea Dunham
State Refugee Coordinator
Department of Human Services
Division of Youth and Family Services (DYFS)
50 East State Street - CN 717
Trenton, NJ 08625
Tel: 609/984-3154
Fax: 609/292-8224
E-mail: [email protected]

NEW YORK

Molly Wilkinson
State Refugee Coordinator
40 North Pearl Street
NYS/OTSP/BRIA
Albany, NY 12243
Tel: (518) 402-3096
Fax: (518) 402-3029
E-mail: [email protected]

NORTH DAKOTA

Mr. Don Snyder
State Refugee Coordinator
Children and Family Services Division
Department of Human Services
600 East Blvd Avenue, Judicial Wing
State Capitol, 3rd Floor
Bismarck, ND 58505
Tel: (701) 328-4934
Fax: (701) 328-2359
E-mail: [email protected]

PENNSYLVANIA
Ms. Carolyn Chester
State Refugee Coordinator
Department of Public Welfare
Office of Social Programs
1401 North 7th Street
Bertolini Building, 2nd Floor
Harrisburg, PA 17105
Tel: 717/783-4505
Fax: 717/772-2093
E-mail: [email protected]

VIRGINIA

Ms. Kathy Cooper
State Refugee Coordinator
Department of Social Services
VA Office of Newcomer Services
730 East Broad Street
Theater Row Building
Richmond, VA 23219-1849
Tel: 804/692-1206
Fax: 804/692-1699
E-mail: [email protected]

WASHINGTON

Dr. Thuy Vu
State Refugee Coordinator
Department of Social ad Health Services
Office of Immigrant and Refugee Assistance
1009 College Street
Olympia, WA 98504-5420
Tel: 360/413-3213
Fax: 360/413-3494
E-mail: [email protected]

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http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/orr/programs/urm.htm

The Unaccompanied Refugee Minors Program

Program Objective:The Unaccompanied Refugee Minors Program assists unaccompanied minor refugees and entrants in developing appropriate skills to enter adulthood and to achieve economic and social self-sufficiency.

Program Description: The State Department identifies refugee children overseas who are eligible for resettlement in the U.S., but do not have a parent or guardian. Upon arrival in the U.S., these refugee children are placed into the Unaccompanied Refugee Minors (URM) program and they receive refugee foster care and other services and benefits.

The program establishes legal responsibility, under State law, to ensure that unaccompanied minor refugees and entrants receive the full range of assistance, care, and services to which all children in the State are required; a legal authority is designated to act in place of the child’s unavailable parent(s). Reunification of minors with their parents, or other appropriate adult relatives is encouraged through working with supportive resources such as voluntary refugee resettlement agencies at the State and local levels. Services provided through the program include English language training; career planning; health/mental health needs; socialization skills/adjustment training; family reunification; residential care; education/training; and Ethnic/religious preservation.

Refugee children who enter the U.S. with a parent, but are unable to remain with them, may be eligible to participate in the URM program. ORR’s URM program guidelines provide the standards used to determine if such a child may be reclassified to URM status.

Children eligible for the URM Program are under age 18, and are:

Refugees (URM status is granted overseas)
Entrants (Reclassified to URM status after arrival)
Asylees (Reclassified to URM status when they are granted asylum)
Victims of Trafficking
Two lead voluntary agencies(volags) — The Lutheran Immigration Refugee Services (LIRS) and The United States Catholic Conference (USCC) — help ORR with the unaccompanied refugee minor program.

These agencies provide services ranging from identifying entrants and asylum children needing the benefits of the URM program to providing essential direct services to the minors through their affiliate agencies, inclusive of foster care placements, to recommending, researching, planning of URM program services.

Eligible Grant Applicants: N/A

Targeted Populations:
Children eligible for the Unaccompanied Refugee Minor Program (URM) are under age 18, and are: refugees (URM status is granted overseas), entrants (Reclassified to URM status after arrival), asylees (Reclassified to URM status when they are granted asylum), or victims of severe a severe form of trafficking.

Geographic Area(s):
Washington, DC; Boston, MA; Grand Rapids, MI; Lansing, MI; Fargo, ND; Philadelphia, PA; Seattle, WA; Phoenix, AZ; Jackson, MS; Newark, NJ; Richmond, VA; Tacoma, WA; Rochester, NY; Syracuse, NY.

URM Program Background:
The program was developed in the 1980’s, to address the needs of thousands of children in Southeast Asia without a parent or guardian to care for them.

Since 1980, almost 12,000 minors have entered the URM program. At its peak in 1985, ORR provided protection to 3,828 children in care. Now in various States, ORR has almost 700 children in URM care.

Policy Info:

45 CFR Part 400, Subpart H Child Welfare Services;

Immigration and Nationality Act (INA) section 412 (a) (6);

INA section 412 (d) (2) (A);

INA section 412 (d) (2) (B);

Title V of the Refugee Education Assistance Act of 1980;

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wish i was old enuf too......

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so can we request a muslim child? or is this only for muslim kids?

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this is for all kids under the refugee minors program, could be from any country from here refugee kids are coming, but you have the capability to specify age, gender and background. From what understand they woud rather lace a foster kid in a home with a similar background, race, religion, language, ethnicuty etc.

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Fostering unaccompanied minors isn't to be taken lightly. These kids come with a LOT of baggage and need stability more than anything.

For those of you that want to help but think you're too young, you should try buddying and mentoring organisations.

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sobi, you are correct, and there atre not just any unaccompanied minors, these are kids who have been through the times that would make majority of ppl on this forum to cry uncle. They could have severe post traumatic stress, depending on the age they may have a lot of anger.

In the end however, they need sincere and able ppl to help them in these tough times. Maybe that takes majority of gupsters out because they are not in a stage of life that they can do this, but they can spread the word.

child and famiy svcs weeds out ppl so mostly they will end up in good households.

Some ppl however have twisted mnds, when we adopted some lady asked us about adopton and then said yeah I need help around the house so I want to adopt. I am like wtf..you aint buying slaves lady.. you are adopting kids to raise them as best you can.. but thats a diff story

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No its not, and i've done u the courtesy of finding u the following information...

[The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) once said that a person who cares for an orphaned child will be in Paradise with him, and motioned to show that they would be as close as two fingers of a single hand. An orphan himself, Muhammad paid special attention to the care of children. He himself adopted a former slave and raised him with the same care as if he were his own son.]

Therefore, adoption is not and should never be considered wrong. U provide an individual who would otherwise suffer hardship with love, support and care. This can never be matched to any material things that u could otherwise provide.

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Furthermore as to not providing the child with names...

Sometimes there is no other option but to adopt the child legally and provide the child with ur family name, otherwise everyday simple things like obtaining a passport would be hindered and difficult to obtain, if the child is not adopted. Thus travel, health insurance etc would be difficult.

I see no problem why people who adopt children should not provide the child with their name, so long as the child knows that he is adopted, otherwise simple things like having parents with different names in the school playground would possibly expose the child to bullying.