Re: Fornicator sibling - your reaction??
I think Poster didn't mean it in literal meaning and he clarified his position as well.
But still to the topic..... I will not beat her or use any tactic like that.... but still try to convince my hypothetical sister.......... I would like to lock her in the room if she doesn't understand..... or still stubborn to ruin her life.
Re: Fornicator sibling - your reaction??
If I did have a sister I'd set her straight if I ever found out.
First off however I'd find out who the guy was and go smash his head in.
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Seconded, we have girl cousins who are like our sisters. If a loser guy ever laid his hands on any of them I’d give her a MASSIVE massive telling off and deal with the guy..accordingly 
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Beating doesn't mean anything literally since we can't easily beat our siblings when they are teenage/ young adults as they are strong enough to stop us and protect themselves from any violence sent towards them. Besides, not many parents encourage older siblings to beat the younger ones. Scolding, being angry, showing strong reactions etc can be synonymous to 'beating' when it is done by an elder sibling. We all say jokingly to our younger siblings things like 'pitai lagaon gi'; 'thappar lagaon'... but I wonder any of us do it literally.
When I do really get angry with my younger siblings, I do tend to say harsh things to my siblings because its difficult to contol my emotions and feelings and can't see my siblings in tough times. But when I cool down, I do tend to discuss the matter with them in a relaxed manner and make them understand how a certain thing is bad for them and how they need to change themselves for the better. My siblings just remain quiet when I and venting out and then we discuss the issue later in a relaxed environment. They find my ghussa troublesome, since they know I don't do ghussa unless there is a considerable need for it. Although my siblings are young adults and can bypass my suggestions, they do listen to me and do give importance to whatever I say to them.
Being an elder sibling, its our responsibility to make sure our siblings don't go to the wrong path and to ensure this, we can sometimes be strict to them. But having a friendly relationship is more effective with an occassional strictness to keep a balance. The level of strictness varies from family to family but it should definitely NOT include beating and physical violence.
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What if the guy is not a loser 
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You cant just copy paste someone's post to make a topic of discussion .... If you really want to do it , Rephrase it .... The way it is done here , I say highly unethical it is ...
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Anyone laying hands on my cousins is 
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What if he knows Kung Fu? (Whoa)
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Are we still talking about a consensual relationship in which both parties are close in age i.e, one hasn’t forced/manipulated/trapped the other?
and, hypothetically speaking, if it were the other way around?
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Ok, I explained it poorly.
If I know the guy’s a loser I would go to her and explain my views and urge her to rethink. Rest is upto them.
If I know a guy’s a loser and if he ever brags or displays disrespectfulness then I’ll go to him and show him the meaning of chitrol
Guys can tell how other guys are. How they talk about women shows a lot.
As for the other way around I’d expect a lecture I suppose, goes in one ear out the other 
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haha no i meant if it were a brother instead fo a sister doing that stuff.
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haha no i meant if it were a brother instead fo a sister doing that stuff.
Same, I'd be even more pissed at him for playing with another girl's life.
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What if someone came to beat up your brother cause he slept with the dude's sister? What if it turned out into one of those girly man fights where guys just take wild swings or try and slap one another without really connecting? Would you film it and put it on youtube?
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^HAHAHA... O heck Yes!
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Slims 
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if it was my sister i would give her advice but then give her space. all we can do as siblings/parents is give them advice. the rest is upto them and its upto them whether or not they want to act upon it. i found that if u invade their personal space it pushes them further away. we're not always gonna be around to get them out of sticky situations there will come a time when they will have to fend for themselves.
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I don't want any family/friends to interfere with me if I do this. And therefore, I wouldn't interfere either, it's their life. No double standards , no hypocrisy.
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We don't always put into action what we feel and say. I may feel like beating the crap out of them....but I know I wouldn't do it. I might lose my temper and sometimes words alone can do enough damage...I would hope that I can maintain composure in this situation. Angering and hurting your errant sibling can make them rebel and stray even farther down the wrong path. Can't undo the fornication can you? You can however try to reason with them so that they don't hurt themslelves by staying in a bad situation or continue making the same mistake. And it's possible that your sibling might not listen.....and if you can't stop them from committing a gunnah and hurting theselves....then at the very least discuss/emphasize ways of staying safe in this kind of situation.
Re: Sister/Brother in haram relationship - your reaction??
i dont appreciate you mentioning my name in any context when you have no clue what i wrote and in what context i meant
anyhow, i ll ignore ur comment this time
Depends on what SharyerKhan's hypothetical sister did.
Apparently beating is productive both as a deterrent and disciplinary measure. Remember the ayah about striking your wife with a toothbrush (why not a broom? I've always wondered) when she's being lewd? Yes. Clinical studies have shown that lewdity is always best beaten out of a person, preferably with a toothbrush. And God knows best.