Ok let’s say you go to a random party where you meet groups of random people men/women etc. What is this **one **thing that would make you judge the personality/ethics of the person in front of you in the following scenarios:
Discuss and give reasons too.
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**i went to this shaadii...i saw this guy all too well dressed up and who spoke constantly. sometimes later i talked to him as well and i formed this opinion about him that:
-he is a very superficial person
-he boasts what good things in life he has
-he is too conceited
-he doesn't care about others
-he was a very selfish person**
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**i went to this shaadii...i saw this guy all too well dressed up and who spoke constantly. sometimes later i talked to him as well and i formed this opinion about him that:
-he is a very superficial person -he boasts what good things in life he has -he is too conceited -he doesn't care about others -he was a very selfish person**
Hmmm so what was this one thing that made him a turn off and a conceited person. Was it his manner of talking, his idol boast talk or anything else?
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Hmmm so what was this one thing that made him a turn off and a conceited person. Was it his manner of talking, his idol boast talk or anything else?
**just putting himself in the middle of all types of talks as if he is an expert on that subject and effectively shutting people up by talking non-stop. he is rich so people hang around him. i hated his blabbering! :( someguy!!!
***how about ur such experience? :)*
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i do judge a person only on the basis of how the person judge other persons :p
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When I go to a get together or a party I usually form an opinion by the body language and the way a person presents himself/herself in the midst of the crowd. Anyone who's being boisterious and loud is an immediate turn-off for me.
So I do judge too, I admit! :p
When talking to someone it's the manner of speech as well as dress that makes me form an opinion.
You know we have had countless threads here in Life1 as well as AV where people say we don't judge the next person we see, whatever their actions are.
First impressions are never a last impression for me but they do have a significant role in my initial opinion of the person I see.
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i do judge a person only on the basis of how the person judge other persons :p
lol..yes I see what you mean.
If someone comes up to me and immediately starts gossiping about the people around then they too are a big turn-off!
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i have my quirks
if you have the following attributes and they are easy to spot...I will avoid you like the plague in a very polite manner
-people who speak too highly of themselves .... this can be seen via the choice of words a person uses to describe their achievements (or talking about ur achievements when no one has asked you about them) and body language/facial expressions used while talking about said achievements....sometimes its not even an achievement its about how all these girls (or boys) swoon over him (or her) cuz he's (she's) so good looking or has a great educational background or his (or her) family is settled abroad ...seriously such a turn off.... i get turned off by this stuff cuz there's a lot i could boast about but don't because i feel like none of it has anything to do with me ...everything is because of god and if I let it get to my head it would be just as easy for him to take it away...or punish me in another way because Allah frowns upon pride...we're expected to be humble and we should be because every blessing we have is because Allah is kind to us not because we are great
-if i'm chatting with you and you start bad mouthing someone else... I will avoid you...why? because thats a turn off too... cuz i feel (a) that when I turn around ur gonna accord the same courtesy to me (i.e. ur gonna bad mouth about me to someone else) and (b) unless ur perfect yourself, who are you to say negative things about someone else?
-if you're gossiping to me about someone tellling me something about their personal life that you heard from so and so ...basically ur engaging in character assassination of that person... yeah...im totally avoiding you cuz you have no right to air out anyone's dirty laundry...muslims are asked to keep each others parda and we shud
so i mean there are a lot of little things like this that make me form opinions about ppl... but the only opinion i will form is whether or not i wanna interact with you...even if someone seems like a egotistical narcissist and they bad mouth someone and they gossip i will still not judge them to be a bad person nor will i label them as egotistical or gossiper or whatever... i will only place one of two labels on whoever i meet
(a) i want to interact with you
(b) i dont want to interact with you
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@op I am not an opinionated snob , I do not go to a party with the intention of labeling people. I go to have good time , enjoy the conversation and food ten I go back to my own merry way. Life is too short to keep looking shortcomings in others. I barely have enough time to take take of my own shortcomings.
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I totally can see what you mean. Even am not like that. Like I said first impressions never make a lasting impression.
But sometimes when you meet people they do give off some vibes and you anaylse their personality based on that. Doesn't have to be a staunch opinion that this person is a labelled loser or judgement about morals/characters. But yes face it or not we all form opinions.
I wouldnt want to be friends with every other person I meet. Why? Because I like some better and I don't click with others that well.
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We all know it's wrong to judge others, but all of us do in one way or another. Even if we meet someone for five minutes we form some sort of opinion about them.
I don't like people who are snobs/who show off/people who are hypocrite/superficial. The easiest way to judge someone is by how they treat someone who is their inferior. Also if someone is boastful, or a show off that's a huge turn off.
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Conversation would be the biggest indicator. I was going to say body laguage...but that's tricky...and I realize/understand that since I'm more reserved until I get to know a person really well...I can unintentionally give the impression that I'm snobby.
In some cases....however....body language has helped especially if it's negatively consistent...or consistent in the sence that the person's actions and words often don't match (as in being two-faced).
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One meet and greet is not enough for me to form an opinion/judgment about a person. It just isn't! I have to see them repeat their actions and words to be able to make an affirmative judgment. Call me confused or whatever but I meet new people all the time and when someone asks me to tell them how so and so was, I am really stumped. Perhaps this is a disability lol.
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if i'm hungry, and he's holding me from eating: he bad man.
if i'm not hungry, and he's talking sense, he good man.
i like to check out people's waistlines though. i know this is bad but i have better insta-judgements on people who look like they are active. mostly because i think all my friends these days are primarily people i do stuff with hmm..
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lol somehow I also judge people by the way they eat on family gatherings/weddings. 
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The easiest way to judge someone is by how they treat someone who is their inferior.
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