Forgiving Past Adultery

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Re: Forgiving Past Adultery

@Demesne

Yes I don’t think that you can ever trust the spouse again. That seed of mistrust will be planted. I don’t understand why the spouse needed to tell now, other than to assuage own guilt. I’d probably wonder that if he can hide this from me for ten years during marriage, what else does he hide? And if he can do that to me, what else is he capable of doing? And those thoughts alone will be very difficult to overcome

Agreed! In this case, I would say most definitely that ignorance is bliss! What’s the reasoning behind 'fessing up? To relieve yourself of the guilt? If god forbid that were to ever happen in my marriage, I don’t think I could ever get past the breach of trust. I’ve said before, the two non-negotiables for me are infidelity & domestic violence. It doesn’t matter if it’s just a one night stand…once that trust is broken, I’m done!