Forgiving Parents

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Re: Forgiving Parents

@sweetpip

Its now been over two months since I have spoken to my parents, and I am no closer to being able to forgive them. Setting forgiveness aside, the saddest thing is that I will never be able to forget what has happened and their actions have tarnished the parent-daughter relationship - I had the most amazing father-daughter relationship and he was my idol and everything. Has anyone ever been in this position and how did you deal with it or get past the anger.

I would ask that posters refrain from advising me that as a muslim daughter and in the month of Ramadan I have duty to forgive my parents for anything because in my heart I am not ready to forgive them.

Dear Poster. All i would like to say is that i know EXACTLY how you feel. Just last week my father whom i used to be in very good relationship with him said things to me. He said things which a father never ever say to his son. A son, who has done everything from financial to emotional support through difficult times. I think the dynamic of our relationship has definitely change. I guess it is my anger but i really don’t feel like talk to him. What he just i couldn’t believe that he is my father!. I kept quiet over the phone and hasn’t said anything. My siblings and mom KNOW that what he said out of his even anger is wrong!. I just don’t feel that our relationship will be any same after this. Our religion has clearly said to be kind to our parents and treat them in noble manner. And Alhamdulli’llah i did and not open my tounge in harsh manner. EVER!. I ask Allah to give me patience. And i pray also to give us patience to deal with our issues.