I am one who has always forgiven and always forgotten. BUT i am surprised at how bitter i feel to this one particular ‘sister’ of mine and just don’t know how to rid it out of my system.
She is a top friend, sister like…and has always been sweet. Then one fine day i lend her camera…took pics, can’t remember…left it on kitchen worktop, took it to a theme park took it out and its not working. She sort of seemed frustrated when she could see it wasn’t working and i was hoping to god it was the battery or something else…
Anyways, on my birthday of all days i had to go to her house for some reason…and i was dead dead deadddd stressed and was blabbering away to her as to how stressed all i was but ALL she could say was ‘you fked my camera up’ ‘What did you do to it’ and i swear from the bottom of my heart i do not know what i had done to it. I know and amdit under my responsibility it fked up but i swear i dont know exactly what i’d done sooo i told her i don’t know…and shes all like ‘what do you mean you don’t know???’ ‘it didn’t suddenly just stop working you know??’.
This was just before my birthday meal. Needless to say she stressed me out more, i felt awful…sick infact and didn’t enjoy my birthday meal one bit cuz the ocnvo kept rerunning through my mind. I’ve tried to get her a replacement but the cameras an old one and isn’t even available in any high streets here. But anyways…the hurt from that day has made me sort of get really bitter towards her. I just can not get it out of my head.
I have stopped even seeing her as a friend. Stopped going to her house. And when i do i rarely talk to her. This is the ONE person i just don’t seem to forgive…i can’t understand whats frozen up inside but something has.
And of course what goes round comes round. She lent one of our products some weeks later, its also not working…and though many have tempted me to say ‘what did you do to it’ ‘it didnt just stop working you know’ i feel too petty n immatute to do anything like that. I mean things mess up at the end of the day…doesn’t matter who is using them …
Back to not being able to forgive…whyyy nottttttttttttt
If you cannot find the same camera, you can try getting her an equivalent or a better camera.
It varies from person to person. I don't like to lend my things to others and when I do, I expect them to be returned in perfect condition. What happens in between is not my responsibility.
Also, it teaches us a good lesson to check the product before lending it to others or when borrowing it. It could be that the camera was already faulty and you only found out once you had it in your possession.
You can harbour ill feelings about how her attitude was not fully justified when she tried to interrogate you about the camera, but keep in mind she also has the right to harbour ill feelings against you, as she is under the impression that you did something to it.
Its best not to do this borrow-lend thing with friends, especially if we're talking about something sensitive and expensive.
As for forgiveness, try not to think about her comment too much. If you feel that strongly about it, just tell her how you feel, and finalize an end to the friendship.
not to be rude, but if someone borrowed my cam (as if i'd lend it out in the first place hah) and it didnt work when i got it back, i would personally break every bone in the person's body into three.
some personal belongings arent just objects. i am not comfortable letting most folks borrow things i like. i have some chronic borrower ex-friends who have left not so pretty memories.
I wouldn’t mind lending things to my friends, but I get really pissed if htey dont bring it back, and then you don’t want to seem like a jerk for goin crazy over possessions
Buy her a cheap plastic disposable camera. That'll show her what you think of her $hitty camera and where she can stick it. No one needs stroppy friends like that.
YAaar it was NOT an expensive digi wigii camera sort...even i could have felt worse for wrecking something like that ...
This was a 35mm konica that is so outdated its not even available anymore...its newer version costs around 40 quid.
I just can't understand why someone u r so close to could not trust you.
If i trust someone enough to lend something to them surely i would trust them enough not to intentionally deck it in. Plus there is more to life than getting nasty over something like this.
starsky, thats what i feel :) I simply can NOT NOT NOT tolerate rude people. The girl ruined my birthday...over a poxy camera. After 6 years of sisterlikeness i would have expected better.
I will be compensating her guys. I am gonna buy her the newer version.
She didn’t come to my birthday meal …said she had things to do around the house.!!!
And since it was only me, my sister, her and her sister going anyway…you can imagine how i felt
