well do forgiveness & trust go hand in hand…
for instance someone hurt you real bad…& broke the trust you had in them…
but you forgive them…& now have nothing against them…but you still can’t bring urself to trust them again…
does it mean tht deep inside you haven’t forgiven them…or is it possible to really forgive someone…but still not be able to trust them…
post ur opinions …
Re: forgiveness & trust
I think it is possible to "forgive" them, but the whole thing about not wanting to trust them is for me a fear of getting hurt again.
I am going through this right now with my sister.......in my heart i want to forgive her but whenever I think I have forgiven her, she does something that reminds me of the hurt and makes me scared to rebuild the trust in her as I am still going through hell because of her betrayal
People are always telling me that I am not the one who can forgive - Only Allah SWT is the one who can do that...............and I truly believe this to be true, so I am leaving it in His more than capable hands
Re: forgiveness & trust
Am going through the same issue with my sister at the moment so I am glad to see this post. Maybe it will help me as well. I don't find it hard to forgive but trust??? hmmmmm I don't think so. That would actually be very stupid of me. Once bitten twice shy........ I also heard that Allah does not forgive the person who betrayed/hurt unless the wronged one forgives.
Re: forgiveness & trust
I think it also depends on who he person is that has hurt you...the closer the person was to you before the betrayal the harder it is.................like I am struggling to forgive my sister for what she did, yet at the same time I am almost best friends with the girl who used to bully me at school - how does that work??
This girl who used to bully me I email everyday and speak to at least once a week by phone and she is the one person who knows everything about me.
May Allah SWT bring peace and contentment to all our hearts...................