When someone hurts you or deeply disturbs you, do you forgive them and move on? Do you forget what they did to you or it always remains in your memory? Do you give them a second chance or never?
What are the philosophies that you live by?
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forgiveness is the greatest act one can do- its a very hard thing especially when uve been hurt and let down.....but as mumins.... we need to be stoic and be pragmatic....let go ....maybe not forget but certainly try and forgive and leave in the hands of Allah swt....you as a mumeen have done ur farz... delete the malice and pain in ur heart and forgive... inshallah Allah swt will reward us all....
Whether I forgive or don't forgive........either way........I won't forget.
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You can't "forget" people and events that have made a deep impact on you.......unless you develop some sort of temporary amnesia.
"Forgetting" in the literal sense is unlikely. However you can try to move on from the experience after learning a lesson from it.
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I forgive, kinda find it difficult to forget though.
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^^^ Same here.. :@:
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forgive but never forget. always keep a keen eye on that person. Our human minds tend to make same mistake over and over, some even make it a habit
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Depends how bad it is, sometimes i forgive and forget, sometimes I forgive but don't forget..and some other times I don't forgive but thanks to my bad memory I forget =D
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I think I easily forgive and forget.
Life is much simpler when you don't have to THINK about the person who was nasty to you.
I mean why think about this person? Why give them the honor of being remembered? Just forget them. The only way to forget them is to forgive them and move on.
I like to remember good things and never forget those. I think that's why I smile a little more. Otherwise I would be a grumpy person.
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I don't EVER forget, thats natural though...and forgiveness depends on how badly I'm hurt by someone.
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i forgive but i never forget...
Same here.And most of the times,iam never able to forgive :hinna:
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I forgive and forget the usual nastiness people show ... crap happens .. we dont have to dwell on things ..
But if someone does the same thing twice , then I find it hard to forgive and forget .... I try to let that person knowto a certain extent , how it feels to be at the receiving end ..
.. and after that I leave it for Allah's court to make the ultimate decision.
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Depends...
But I love to forgive.Noone is perfect.........
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You cant forget any body. But your act what you can do is either forgive or revenge. So its better to forgive but sometimes I repent on revenge.
About forgetting. No you can never do it neither I. It only depends how much has those memories effected your past life and how much they will effect your future.
I can forgive but I can't forget .
i forgive but dont forget too. however i dont think about it constantly, but if i sit and think on it solely, then i start to feel the anger and upset i had felt when whatever it was,happened. so i try not to think about it, which to some extent feels like moving on. hope that makes sense.
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=] i try to forgive and never ponder on that ever but all the crap stays in me forever .i never forget anything
I forgive them, I don't forget though, but try to ignore them,