foreign se rishta

Re: foreign se rishta

It’s silly for your parents to reject guys in your city/country b/c they’re assuming every guy there is bad. But its equally silly for you to NOT want a guy who is settled abroad b/c you don’t want to move away from your parents.

Even if you marry a guy who right now lives in the same neighborhood…there is no guarantee that after marriage, he won’t want to move away b/c of his job or some other reason. Part of being a married woman (especially in the desi culture) is accepting that sooner or later, we might have to re-locate and live in a different city/country than our parents. Although its misguided, it sounds like your parents are looking for outside rishtas b/c they believe that’s what best for your future.

So my advice for you is to let your parents do their search and bring suitable rishtas to you. Reject rishtas based on useful things like compatiblity, their personality, physical attraction etc. But for you to refuse to even consider abroad rishtas just b/c you don’t want to move away after marriage is just as bad as your parents not wanting to consider rishtas in Pakistan.